Chase or Attract? C-Note: There's no law written in stone, but in general Men are normally suppose to Chase and Women are suppose to Attract. Personally I've never been any good at being a chaser. No matter what a guy does to gain a womans favor if she likes the guy it's viewed as romantic and if she doesn't like the guy it's viewed as being creepy.
Are there many men that build themselves up using succesfull jobs, material wealth and physical strength alone to attract women without chasing?
Are there many women who are willing to do more and actively pursue a guy for a date to get to know them better?
I'm just curious as always.
C-Note
Re: Chase or Attract? down2basics: [quote author=C-Note link=topic=24539.msg230529#msg230529 date=1138125383"> Are there many women who are willing to do more and actively pursue a guy for a date to get to know them better?
I'm just curious as always.
C-Note
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Well...for me C - historically - I've always been the one to pursue. I find what I want - I'm relentless until I either get it - or discover it's not worth having. My Ex - I was hot on his trail for the longest - had just about convinced myself he was gay - untillllll - Valentines day hit - then I found out he was actually heterosexual afterall! 8)
So, if the woman is confident enough in herself, there are no rules I know of to keep her from going for it.
FWIW! :D
d2b
Re: Chase or Attract? yella: Forgive me for being way off base here, if I am, but I think the whole chase or attract thing is crap.
I don't think of myself as either being a chaser, or someone who attracts. I've been "chased" a few times, and I've asked 1 guy out, but none of those actually worked.
The guys, in my own experience, who worked themselves up with jobs and physical stature always seemed so fake and made up to me. There was no substance, and nothing to talk about.
The guys who put their heart out on the line by just sharing their own thoughts and feelings in a nutural way are the ones who made a real impact. One in particular.
I don't know if this is helping you or not, but I'd rather have a guy who just wants to talk to me and let the attraction happen, than sell himself to me.
Just be who you are, and if the one you see doesn't like it... move onto the next.
Too much pressure is put on chasing and attracting people... IMO.
Re: Chase or Attract? Beren: [quote author=C-Note link=topic=24539.msg230529#msg230529 date=1138125383"> ...if she likes the guy it's viewed as romantic and if she doesn't like the guy it's viewed as being creepy....[/quote">
Truer words have rarely been spoken.
Beren's Ghost
Re: Chase or Attract? alonewith2: I like it when there's a little of both on both sides.
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