Re: Same vent...different day... brokenbaby: PG, the anger at him is the resentment stage of codependency. I know I have been there. It is normal, you have done so much to try to help him, save him, help your marriage, save your marriage, take care of your family...and what has he done? Nothing. Have you read Melody Beatties books on codependency. They do help.
Dont beat yourself up, you are much stronger then you ever know and you do so much for everyone else. Keep trying the shelter. Maybe something will open up. For you, you need to get out of that relationship. My stbxh was the same way minus the drugs and alcohol. Everything was my fault, he never said things and I know he did. I said things I knew I hadn't. It will just go on and on.
If he had not left I would probably still be doing it. Hell not probably, would be. Let me know if there is anything, anything I can do to help. (((hugs))) you are wonderful and don't forget it.
Re: Same vent...different day... down2basics: My beautiful Goddess! Your light isn't shining today... :'( I can understand why.
I agree with Angelbaby and Goosetape - you need to get away. If not forever, at least for a while. Give you both time to think. You've got a massive case of cabin fever...which would make anybody nuts! Add to that an insensitive husband and a screaming baby - Calgon can't do sh*t for you! I know there are days when Bacardi is like water!
Honey, if you want to leave - you know the way. All of us here will help get you out and pick you up and dust you off. You know you have a home here in Texas. You and my little nuggets are welcome here with my tator-tots any day of the week. You know that! Just let me know what I can do for you - it will be done. I'd love to take my little Sammy out for nuggets in person! ;D
Only you have the answers - true answers honey. You know my situation, what I'm facing - what I'm going through. You know - I KNOW. I'm here for you precious. I'll be calling you as soon as I can. If you need $$ - let me know - I'll go steal someone's mattress and all it's stuffin'! :D
Loving you - ALWAYS!
d to tha b
Re: Same vent...different day... JNA: [quote author=PiscesGoddess link=topic=24550.msg230684#msg230684 date=1138137297">
well he is screwing wiht my head..he says one thing then says he didnt say it..says I said things that I never said..wont take any responsibility for ANYTHING..so WHY AM I STILL HERE? WHY?
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This is "crazymaking"...
Are you familiar with that
My ex did this and it will make you question your own sanity for sure...Even if you wrote it down he would still deny saying it...
Why are you still there...
Sometimes we get stuck ya know...
Sorry to see you having to go through this
I don't really have any great advice...
I could say Run As Fast As You Can but we all know it is not that easy
I hope things get easier...
Stay Strong PG
JNA
Re: Same vent...different day... alonewith2: GTM said it first, but you know there's always a bus ticket for you here.
Of course, it's boring as hell here in this "quaint" little town of mine...I wouldn't want to push you over the edge....
HUGS!!! PM me if you need to talk!
Re: Same vent...different day... Irony:
Hey PG.. me again..
just remember:
Weebles wobble but they don't fall down!
You are one hell of a weeble swettie!!
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