Re: anyone got back with their ex? Anyone you know of that its worked for?? :broken:: [quote author=JimB link=topic=24577.msg231660#msg231660 date=1138248368">
People who successfully get back together with their exes don't typically spend their time frequenting divorce support sites.
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I'm here! I'm not usually here either, but, thought I'd butt in.
Well, it took my almost a year to realize that I needed my family, my husband was part of that, it took a lot of work on my part and a lot on his. It took a lot of forgiveness and a lot of respect. I was the one who wasn't happy. I was theone who decided that I did not want to live that way anymore. I put an end to it and hurt him very much. In the end he learned his lesson and I learned mine. So, yes, it does work out, just not as fairy-taley as you wish it would. We've been together for 7 months now, no major difficulties, but, like I said, a lot of sacrifice and forgiveness.
Re: anyone got back with their ex? Anyone you know of that its worked for?? barelybreathing: [quote author=JimB link=topic=24577.msg231660#msg231660 date=1138248368">
People who successfully get back together with their exes don't typically spend their time frequenting divorce support sites.
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I swear Jimb, sometimes you are just dead on.
Anything can happen. It is possible. But it takes quite a bit of effort before you can reap the benefits of a happy and healthy marriage again. And that effort has to be done by both partners "at the same time".
BB
Re: anyone got back with their ex? Anyone you know of that its worked for?? phairestofthemall: OK I've got a happy one for ya- my g-ma and g-pa married way back in the day, had 8 kids (Catholic heh), but then something happened... (no airing family laundry in the street here) my g-ma didn't just divorce him, she ANNULLED her marriage with him. After 8 kids, I know, I didn't think you could do that either but she did. I can't imagine things were rosy between them at that point, but anyway the point is things got better- by the time I was born they were buddy-buddy, and a few years back they remarried and are currently living happily ever after. ;D
I did Bree: I got back w/my husband after he abandoned me @ 7 1/2 months pregnant to try to have a life w/his ex-wife, who I thought he hated! She left him while 5 1/2 months pregnant to take up w/another man and he'd never laid eyes on his daughter until she left that man and "needed someone". He lost it and had some sort of breakdown (that's the best I can describe it). We reconciled 3+ wks later. I have never felt so much pain in my life and never thought I could hurt in such a way.
Fast forward 4 months and we are still together. He seems to show me more respect and is kind even when I'm bringing up my pain over the situation. Let me tell you ...IT IS HARD! The thoughts still go thru my head daily. I will never understand how it could happen. The why will never be answered. He expresses how much he regrets his stupid mistake. But in reality I will pay the price as long as I stay with him. I truly love him and I feel loved (again), but I am no fool to think I can ever fully trust again.
I have forgiven to the extent that I can, which is not 100%. The pain and anger are still there. It gets better with time, but it is a sacrafice for me. I'm struggling w/my feelings of inadequacy and humiliation. I feel people judge me as desperate for going back after what happened. I know I can't worry about what other people think, but it does bother me. I do love him no matter what. This horrible event has proven that! My post sounds negative, I'm sure, but that's not my intent. I am glad to be back with him. I will never give him another chance if he ever strays again that's it. I felt I owed it to my son (now 2 months) to give him a chance w/his daddy in his home. Otherwise, I do not think I could have even considered it.
As I said, I love him. We are getting along better than before it happened. I think I taught him the value of our marriage and my love and committment. Time will tell if he is sorry and if he is a decent human being. Forgiveness is a tough one!
Re: anyone got back with their ex? Anyone you know of that its worked for?? thehitekrednek: I'm considering giving it a shot with mine. She will have to do a lot of proving, and I will have to learn to live with what she has done to me and get past that. I honestly think it will be harder for me than her, but I think she may be worth the effort. Only time will tell. I will keep you posted.
thr
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