Re: anyone got back with their ex? Anyone you know of that its worked for?? imisshim: jimb..... LMAO....
yes i realize this... this site really helps me.. i am going through a divorce but that doesnt mean that i dont want to know a little hope in things...
its only been 3 months for me....
sorry
Re: anyone got back with their ex? Anyone you know of that its worked for?? EssieDotCom: it's only been 4 months for me.... and yeah sometimes I either sub-concisouly or otherwise look for little strands of hope in things. Like the tone of his voice and how he doesnt want to say good bye to me on the phone etc... silly isn't it ;)
Re: anyone got back with their ex? Anyone you know of that its worked for?? vjsauce: i have a friend who went through her husband cheating on her and ended up leaving her for the OW for a year. but he changed. they got back together and have stayed for 7 yrs. she made him go through hell but he did it for her. they are very good together and happy. he truly loves her and to this day he lets her know that he made a mistake that cost them a year of thier lives. he has more than made it up to her.
Re: anyone got back with their ex? Anyone you know of that its worked for?? allmixedup: I've been back with my ex wife for 5 months now and let me say, it's been no fairytale. It's all about patterns you formed in your marriage and breaking them. Not an easy thing to do. We have days where it is great and wonderful and all that and then the next day we want to kill each other. It has been a very slow process. Sometimes it feels like it is going somewhere and sometimes it doesn't. To make it work you really have to dig deep and come clean with yourself about the mistakes and the things you did to help destroy your marriage and commit to trying to fix the. It is very easy to get into the pattern of trying to fix the other person instead of yourself. I think that is one of our biggest problems. We are trying to learn how to key in on ourselves. You will never be successful in trying to fix the other person. Only yourself so the other person has to do the same. I think this is one of the hardest things to do ever and if your significant other is not willing to do this it will not work. I know I've rambled and not said exactly what you want to hear, but just my opinion. Honestly some days I think, hey this is great and others it's, what the hell am I doing. Just don't expect a fairytale. It may be great and wonderful at first, but the problems you had in your marriage won't magically go away. They will come back unless you work them out.
ps, JimB is right. I don't come here much anymore except to see what's up with old friends sometimes. :)
Re: anyone got back with their ex? Anyone you know of that its worked for?? imisshim: well thank you guys for your input
and yes it is crazy how when he's here and he doesnt want to leave i want to jump at that and hold on to it....
and that he cant stop staring at my lips...
or that when his voice isn't QUITE so cold as it has been i think... ok there he is... grab him and pull him out before the devil takes over again!!!!
lol
but only time can tell i guess...
but is it crazy for me to want him in my life.... be friends with him.. have him make me laugh.....
he asked me yesterday what i wanted.... if i wanted something serious with him right now and i said no... i want to go back to school..... i want to move.... it will take me a couple of years to get my RN..... and i am moving in with a girlfriend from work... and if we get back together right now i cant do all those things.... and i feel that i need this time to live alittle bit...
but am i a bad person because i want it to be MY DECISION if we stay together and not his?? After all he is the one who left... who CHOSE to be wish someone else?
I told him i love him and i miss him in my life... i miss having fun and it not being so serious... he is apart of me... no one makes me laugh like he does...
I told him that i'll take him anyway i can get him right now.... and if friends is it.. than thats great...
I just feel better when i know how he is.... and hear his voice....
Granted i can do without knowing about his bimbo.... lol... so i choose to not ask questions about her.... my stupid mistake is asking... wont make that one again....
But then it feels great when he knows i went out on a date... (didn't go on a date just went to play pool with a guy from work who i am JUST friends with) and he has to drill me on what i did.... makes me smile inside... knowing that he's jealous and envious of the other guy.... and watching him get sad when i dont tell him anything....
*dances off singing ne ner ne ner ne ner*
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