How do you .. jadedangel: [color=navy"> emotionally detach yourself from a situation? Take the hope .. the care and the want out of that situation? I am getting so sick of false hopes ... yet -- the only person who gives them to me ... is well ... your's truly. I don't quite understand ... how I am supposed to see clearly ... and lose the jaded perception that I so easily have adopted.[/color">
Re: How do you .. yella: Oh... girlie...
You have got to cut contact with him. If you don't you're going to drive yourself insane!
If you don't have anything attached to him, like shared assets, kids, etc... then you don't really need him, and you can begin to move on.
If you do share any of these things, you can start to treat him like a business, but in order to do that, contact has to be cut.
I'm afraid that's the only way, well that, and a little time too. :-\
I really wish I could help you!
Re: How do you .. Peaceandquiet: Ok warm up the flame throwers......
Jaded your a woman..hence you hold close your emotions and retain your feelings. Guys have the great ability (well some of us do) to shuck the emotion and detach. Granted its always in the back of our head, but like a closet stuffed with sporting goods we can make the door shut when we want to. From what I have seen of woman it is just not that easy to do. Best thing you can do is like Smiley said no contact, or you bug the hell out of him till he gets pissed, then you get mad and its easier to get over him when your mad. I have a cold so I'm really not making much sense today so I'll just shut it.
Re: How do you .. yella: Oh Geez!!!
Go with my theory and do the no contact thing. ::) If you start fights with him, you'll get mad, but then you'll feel too guilty after, apologize for being a bitch, and that will only increase the contact and start the cycle all over again. Trust me!
Yeah, PQ has a cold, so he's gettin all dumb and stuff! :P Must I teach you everything, PQ? ;) :-*
Re: How do you .. genesplicer: I'm going to jump on the no contact bandwagon here as well. It's VERY difficult to change your perspective on a situation when you're still in the middle of it.
Sometimes it takes a little distance to start to see these things without other emotions clouding it up, and i think going NC gets you alot of that space.
And ok... I'm going to be an ass for a minute... But you have to WANT to lose the jaded perception. And that's not an easy thing, because it's a nice safe place to be. :)
<prepares for flame throwers> ;)
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