I'm paying for HER divorce 21218: check out this little email convo ... should I be surprised with how inconsiderate she is? I'd let her do it but it's been two months since she suggested this and hasn't done anything. I've set this stuff up in the last two weeks, I want out so I don't have this hanging over my head.
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STBXW,
I just got off the phone with my lawyer. We are going to proceed with a New York State divorce. He is getting all the paperwork together but you should receive documents in the mail within two weeks or so.
This is not my divorce, this is your divorce. I don't want to pay for it. The total cost will be approximately $1,000. $400 for filing fees, $600 for legal fees, $100 for mailing / notary costs, etc. I'd like it you'd send me the money to cover the cost.
Let me know you got this email and that this works for you.
- 21218
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21218,
You get to make all the decisions, and I am going to pay for it....What is the alternative, to stay married? It is your lawyer, and your petition, therefore your divorce too. I am willing to contribute; what you are suggesting sounds like ransom. If this doesn't work for you, I will retain my own lawyer in Hawaii.
- STBXW
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STBXW,
let me just get this straight. you're leaving me and you're with someone else already. you want a divorce from me and you're having me do it for you and you want me to pay for it, while you're getting $250 a month for still being with me? this is unbelievable. pay for it, it's your responsibility.
- 21218
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21218,
$250.....this isn't about money, you are doing this on principle. so i repeat, it is your lawyer, your state, and bottom line, YOUR way. it was my idea, you're right; but be honest with yourself, you are not doing this to help me out...you are doing this out of spite, just so you can feel in control. if you want to file jointly with new york, that is fine with me. otherwise i will petition seperately in Hawaii, where I will have jurisdiction, and assume the full cost and responsibility.....
you may speculate all you like in regards to my personal life; you are not going to control another thing in my life, and this will be the last we ever need know each other. do the right thing.......get real. i am not playing your little games anymore. i will wait until friday for your response.
- STBXW
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STBXW,
There's no point in talking to a lawyer in Hawaii ... again, let me repeat, my filing divorce in New York State is not contingent upon you giving me any money. I have already started the process, he is my lawyer, and I am assuming the full cost. You asked me, as a favor, to file for you. You felt that your filing from Korea was going to pose problems so you asked me to do it for you. Fine, I am doing it for you. In return, I want you to pay for it. You'd be paying the same amount, if not more, for a lawyer in Hawaii. It would take just as long, if not longer, than it's going to take with NY.
This isn't about money, it's about principle. You want a divorce from me and you're asking me to do it for you, and pay for it, all while you're getting paid $250 a month to be married to me. I am not trying to control you. You're breaking up our marriage, I am doing you a favor by spending my time and energy on this and you're asking me to pay for it? .... all while you're still getting money for being my wife? Given these circumstances, I'm asking you, as a favor, to be decent about this.
Again, let me make it clear -- I have already started the process of filing for divorce. I have retained a lawyer and the papers are being prepared. I am paying for it. Please be a fair and decent person and pay for the thing that you want that you're having me do for you, don't make me assume the cost for it on top of everything else.
- 21218
Re: I'm paying for HER divorce imisshim: ok so YOU are the one who left her??
and you have another girl already??
God i hate to say it.. but i'm her position...
i say you pay
but she could atleast split it with you...
my husband and i are spliting it and he's the one that left me for some trucker bimbo girl who's 35 and his genital warts...
so there you go ... i should have shoved it up his ass but i'm a nice girl...
no i guess i'm stupid!! anyway...
sounds to me like she really didn't want to file... that maybe she's saying she filed to see if it will bring you back
but then again i dont know anything about your circumstances...
so dont listen to me lol this is not a good day for me
sorry !
lol
Re: I'm paying for HER divorce 21218: no, she left me and she's with another guy now.
she's overseas and can't easily file, she asked me to file.
i'm filing for her and I'm asking her to pay. and she's chapping my ass about it.
Re: I'm paying for HER divorce smokin: i would look into, seeing if she could actually file there. i dont think she can, but i never looked it up. if she couldnt file, then its worth her while.
or, tell her it costs 2,000. and split it in 1/2 then she pays for the whole thing. lol.........
Re: I'm paying for HER divorce 21218: it's going to be a huge pain in the ass for her to file from Korea, and she's really, really lazy. so she asked me to do it. now she's trying to fuck me with the bill, the whore.
i'd do that thing with the payment, but i'm not a fucking asshole like she is. i won't stoop to her level. $1000 is a lot of money, but it's not that much money.
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