Stalkers Zipsfb: Last night I had some friends over to hang out and drink. One of them is a girl that is an old friend but 4 years ago used to obsess over me. I never gave her ANY reason to think I shared her feelings, and I was very blunt at the time that I was not interested AT ALL. It took a year or so for her to "get it" but occasionally would come back and say things like "if things were different do you ever thing you and I would work?"... I always am very blunt and say "I'm sorry but my feelings have always been just as a friend, and that has never changed".
Anyway. Back to the story. Since this all was years ago, and it seemed like it was old news, I will occasionally agree to hang out (once every two months or so). Last night I agreed to go get a cup of coffee, and things weren't weird at all. Since I was having a get together I decided at the last minute it was okay if she came as well, esp. since there were a lot of people. Some of who are interests of mine...
This friend proceeds to confess EVERYTHING to my friends, systematically, one by one, and also starts to tell them how she is still in love with me etc... She did not know some of the people there were my interests, since she knows little about my life because we never hang out.
Well her confessions really Fed up the night, and made it a little more than weird. Next thing I know, after everyone left, I am apologizing to people for her actions.
I am very mad at this girl since I have been very nice to her, and am very embarrassed that I even had her over. Now I want to talk to her and tell her to get the hell out of my life, but I don't want to me be mean... since being mean only seems to make her desire me more, and I hate hurting people. Is there a diplomatic way out of this. I was stupid to have her over, but her issues with me were 4 years ago, and NOTHING happened then... not even a "I'll think about being with you". What is her deal? What should I do with the girls I am interested in?
Sorry if this is long and spacy, I am pretty mad and tired from all of this.
Re: Stalkers snkpack5: I like to keep my stalker in the closet, that way I always know what he's up to. I wouldn't feel comfortable letting him out into the world not knowing what he might pull next. He might be able to get ahold of some weapons or something.
Scary thought.
Re: Stalkers phairestofthemall: ouch, bad form. Man, I don't think you can say anything to her except 'I'm as crazy for you as you are for me' w/o devastating her, but you're not gonna say that soooooo... I'd just be honest, email her if you can to avoid a scene and communicate clearly, tell her how you feel and have always felt about her and how her behavior was way outta line, and that since she's proven incapable of having a platonic gig you can't hang anymore.
Re: Stalkers Zipsfb: Thats prolly the best. I have been thinking about ignoring her, but I may need to confront her.
UGH
Re: Stalkers C-Note: be honest and tell her the truth. Don't worry about being nice, worry about being clear and to the point. Eventually one day she will get it. When she does she may feel a little bitter towards you or even better she'll break all contact with you on her own.
At least that was my experience with a woman that I knew that liked me.
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