"The bushman and the peculiarities of on-line relationships... bushy: OK...where do I start this one...
Purely out of curiosity really, I decided to "dip-my-toe" into the waters of the on-line dating world recently (I know JimB suggested it, for one). You know how it is...whacked up a photo of the bushman looking in absolute mint condition 8), and supplemented that with what I perceived were some appealing comments for the ladies ;D.
Anyway, have to be honest, always perceived the on-line dating thing as something that existed for "sad and lonely" lonely-hearts column frequenters. But, thinking about it logically, it seems as good a way as any to deal with the whole "initial introduction" thingy.
Sent out a few messages, got a few messages - no-one turned up that I really felt I wanted to actually date - but then...I actually got a reply from an Australian girl - yeah, you got it right, the bushman, who last week was in London, and still is - starts to develop an affection for a girl in Aus.
...and this is the weird thing, I have traded e-mail addresses with this girl and we have chatted at immense length via e-mail, and I feel like my emotions are running away with me towards her. I actually really like her...she is not my usual type, but I feel like her mind is a feast for me - we seem to click - and that is something I have never felt before in this way - not even with the STBX. She thinks in such similar ways to me...
I keep trying to rationalise this in my mind with thoughts like...
a) Bush, she's in Aus man, this ain't never gonna be nothin...
b) Bush, she probably wants nothin more than a pen-pal (although I am getting signals that she is quite keen)...
c) Bush, this is an ONLINE thing, they never work...
But the weird thing is, regardless of all this, I still feel like a kid who has fallen for someone at school and feels this weird "connection" with them :-[. Its not like she is the first person to show any interest in me since my X - have had a few "come-ons" both in person and via web - but have had no qualms about brushing these off - as I felt I was not interested in anyone. This is weird - do you think such feelings are OK? Is this weird? Is it possible to feel for someone via such unorthodox mechanisms? Surely its dumb for me, a mature bushman now, to think anything might come of this, right?
This is troubling me...maybe I should just go with the flow and see what comes from this? They say god works in mysterious ways, right?
Bush :-\
Re:"The bushman and the peculiarities of on-line relationships... Lumpy: Cheers bushy. Glad to hear you have a much needed distraction from your current woes. I say go for it! Who knows what might happen? What better place for a bushman than tromping around the outback? Fair Dinkum mate! ;D Come to the land of wonder, the land down under! (They'll slip another shrimp on the barby for ya.) All puns aside, good luck and stay sane.
"The bushman and the peculiarities of on-line relationships... ChristyM: I don't think there's anything stupid about this. Why is it that we are only allowed to meet and click with people through the standard, orthodox channels? Why not step out of your comfort zone and do what feels good to you? You're both adults - right? I think meeting someone online has gotten a bad rap and maybe it's not warranted.
You deserve some good feelings Bushy after everything you've been through...
Christy
Re:"The bushman and the peculiarities of on-line relationships... Safetykc: Short and sweet answer.
Yes and yes...
Re:"The bushman and the peculiarities of on-line relationships... marc_ro: [quote author=ChristyM link=board=6;threadid=2501;start=0#msg21599 date=1080331392">
Why is it that we are only allowed to meet and click with people through the standard, orthodox channels? [/quote">
I agree.. who says how two people are *supposed* to meet? wonderful relationships have been started from car accidents, eyes meeting from across a crowded bar, the last seat open on a bus, and yes, even online.
it doesn't matter how two people meet, it only matters *that* they meet. especially if those two people happen to make a real connection, and that sometimes gets missed when we pass judgement on how or when those meetings *should* happen....
-Marc
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