What do you think about a girl who is still in contact with her X Gabo: What do you think about a girl who e-mails every couple weeks with her X?
Do you think is a red light? Do you think they are just friends?
Any comments?
Re: What do you think about a girl who is still in contact with her X shockedandamazed: Hmmm..could just mean they are good friends....I have a lot of guy friends but it never got physical whatsoever - personally, I am not close friends with any of my ex's where it did get physical.
Re: What do you think about a girl who is still in contact with her X Gabo: Yes it got physical, they dated for 4 years. She moved to another city and after some months apart she broke up with him. The city is close and I've heard he'll move back in december.
Re: What do you think about a girl who is still in contact with her X dgiirl: red flag
what's her excuse for emailing him? do they have kids or anything?
I do have a friend who still talks to his exgf. They've been on again off again for 12 years! I keep telling him it's time to stop talking to each other. He's starting to realize NOW why that's a good idea.
Re: What do you think about a girl who is still in contact with her X tara: I still talk to my ex every now and again. We have no kids, and are both in new relationships. (He's married again, with stepkids.)
Just because we couldn't make it work as a couple doesn't mean we don't LIKE each other. We are good friends, to this day. (Ours was an "irreconcilable differences"/"going in way different places in life" divorce, not a lie/cheat/abuse/etc. divorce, so that's something to consider.)
I'm also casually friends (see him once a year or so, at parties) with an ex of mine (from high school). We were sort-of BF/GF (does math; dear lord) 14 years ago. Needless to say, if I was still carrying a torch from 1992, I'd have problems bigger than this.
J., the new SO, still talks to his ex almost every day, but they have a three-year-old together. They get along fine when they don't have to live together or deal with each other for long periods of time. They often have dinner or coffee when exchanging custody. No biggie.
I'm wondering: Why is it absolutely necessary to completely cut off contact with someone, just because you didn't work out as a couple? If they've both clearly moved on, and don't want each other back, I think it's fine.
I think it's only a red flag if she hides it, or if she won't stop talking about him, or goes to him for advice about new relationships. (That's a no-no for me.)
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