Re: What do you think about a girl who is still in contact with her X BambiC: I really hope that this isn't a red flag because I intend to stay friends with my stbxh. We're going to live very close to each other and when we don't have to live together we get a long great. I can see the risk of sliding back into a physical relationship with an ex but I think it depends on the character of the individual. I am a firm believer in manogamy. If I start dating someone else even if their was an opportunity to be physical with my ex I wouldn't take it because I would feel like I was cheating on my SO. That's me but I'm sure I'm not the only person with strong moral beliefs, so having contact with an ex doesn't have to be a bad thing.
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Re: What do you think about a girl who is still in contact with her X twetifb: My feelings regarding contact with an ex are similar both to tara and bambic. My stbx and I are still close even though he lives in Florida and I live in Chicago. We were not able to make it as a couple for many reasons but we are very good friends and hopefully that will not change. He had a recent loss in his family and I flew down to Florida to be there for him for a few days and then spent time with him and his family when they came here for the funeral. Some may think that was crossing the line but for us it wasn't. I was there for him to lean on in a time of need and I know he'll be there in the future if I need it. We are not romantically involved anymore but we still love each other and wish each other the best. I will be perfectly honest with future partners if they ask if I'm in contact with my ex because there is nothing to hide.
Re: What do you think about a girl who is still in contact with her X dgiirl: I still think it's a red flag. red flags are not something that should determine if it's a make it or break it, but it's definitely something to bring attention to, be cautious of and see if it's something YOU find acceptable or not. It all depends on her reasons for staying in contact and if you're ok with it. There's also a difference between keeping in touch and having the ex a part of your every day life. Emailing each other every two weeks just to chat seems a little too extreme. But that's my personal belief and would cause a red flag to go up for me if I saw that in a partner. Doesnt mean i would not get involved. Just means I would investigate further and see if I can live with the reasons for them doing so.
Re: What do you think about a girl who is still in contact with her X tara: That's a good point -- I guess I assumed "red flag" was synonymous with "deal breaker" in this context.
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I still think it's a red flag. red flags are not something that should determine if it's a make it or break it, but it's definitely something to bring attention to, be cautious of and see if it's something YOU find acceptable or not. It all depends on her reasons for staying in contact and if you're ok with it. There's also a difference between keeping in touch and having the ex a part of your every day life. Emailing each other every two weeks just to chat seems a little too extreme. But that's my personal belief and would cause a red flag to go up for me if I saw that in a partner. Doesnt mean i would not get involved. Just means I would investigate further and see if I can live with the reasons for them doing so.
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Re: What do you think about a girl who is still in contact with her X whatnext: OTOH, I know of a woman safely divorced from her ex, dating a new guy, and she and the ex talk almost daily.
It would bother me, but it doesn't bother her bf, which means: How do you feel about it Jabe?
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