Re: Question - could use some feedback sosad05: I think it would be very hard to have to see that person 3 times a week...especially if you werent over them. I think you should see if you can get a formal visitation time for her. That way the time you have to spend with her is minimal. Even when I see my ex for a few minutes during the child exchange it hurts. Good luck! :)
Question - could use some feedback doseyclwn: Wife and I separated 2 1/2 weeks ago, she left me with the kids: Blade (4, almost 5) and Aiden (17months). So far, she has been coming over 2 to 3 times a week to hang out with the kids, and she takes them one night overnight on the weekends (if she has time). I'm having a hard time with this. I mean, she left me. That has consequences. I don't wish to restrict her access, but I mean, after we get divorced, she's not gonna be over 3 times a week to see them. I don't think it's good for the kids, I KNOW it's not good for me. Hard to get over someone when you see them 4 times a week. Am I completely off my rocker here? Any suggestions?
Re: Question - could use some feedback audi_driver: no you aren't!!!
People want the best of both worlds........
My wife wants me to have our daughter every weekend and pay $2,000 a month in child support....
So in other words......She wants custody but she wants me to have ZERO social life because I have the children every weekend. She gets to work all week and have weekends to do what SHE wants......On top of that she wants $2,000 a month from me...FOR WHAT!!!! My daughter is 3 1/2
Re: Question - could use some feedback 4sarah: I'm sorry your going threw this. Welcome to Ojar. I would check your states visitation laws... They have a pre-set standard but thats only if you guys can't work it out among yourselves. My X and I couldn't either. Here in UT he gets them one night each week from 530-830 and then every other weekend from friday at 530- sunday at 700pm. Once we decided to go with the states schedule he quit coming as much so they was nice for me but hard on the kids. If she wants to visit them why not make her take them with her instead of hang out at the house or maybe she could stay at the house with them and you could leave for a bit. I don't know its a hard situation because you need to do whats best for you and your children but its just a thought.
Good luck - Sarah
