A really DUMB GUY!!! Bob-Bob: ;D >:( :o
Ok... I am going to tell you a story... insane story... this guy loved his wife so much he would have done anything...for her... She cheated on him and asked for a divorce... he gave it to her ...feeling at times that it was what he wanted too... then time went by and she started calling... softening up to him... telling him her woes and griefs, telling him she missed things about him and telling him he had been a good husband and provider.... he knew she was in a desperate financial situation.... knew the "Grass was far from green on the other side of her proverbial d*mn fence"... he got so f'ing tired of the emotional rollercoaster she was sucking him back onto....
He really wanted to... ...care but after all of the stuff she had pulled over the past months... and the fact that she was still living with the OM... being evicted from her house and possibly losing her New Truck she bought.....
Manipulations? Lies?
... he picked up his cell phone... ringing (ringer was playing the song "she f'ing hates me by:puddle of mudd) answered the phone.... listened and then said... I will give you the money you need to never, ever... f'king call me again... (he never swore at her and now since the divorce started and ended ... this was the second time)I am tired of your manipulations... tired of your lies... tired of you and what you now represent to me... I have never said a totally hateful word to you before... but if you ever call me after I give you this money... I will. (she then did the one thing that could tear his heart out... started crying... ) he felt ashamed :-[and sad... He hung up... for the first time he was furious... and it was because he still had feelings... He was angry because he cared... He slammed his cell phone down On the table and it broke... flying into several pieces ( feeling shocked and appauled at his own behaviour.... he then wrote out and mailed a check... Stopped by the liquor store on the way home and proceeded to drink...
Knowing that every word he had said to her was true... he wanted, needed to never hear from her again... because for those several months that he hadn't ...he had felt so much better....... :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(
Re:A really DUMB GUY!!! therapychic: you did the right thing, my friend. stay strong and think of better days to come!
ps... sorry bout that phone. :-\
take care!
Re:A really DUMB GUY!!! Bob-Bob: Thanks... Yeah... It hurts...to know that you are totally shutting the door to someone... someone that used to be your best friend.... but has since done so many things to destroy that... and suddenly wants to start acting like those things never happened...
Thanks for the support :'(
Re:A really DUMB GUY!!! ChristyM: Been there, done that. I think one of the hardest things to do is to tell the one you love/loved that you no longer want contact with them. Knowing that once you say the words, you can't take them back and you really can't say you changed your mind later. It's truly closing the door on something that used to mean so much.
Hang in there.
Christy
Re:A really DUMB GUY!!! Bob-Bob: Yeah... :'( Think I tried to avoid doing that for awhile... just wanted to be removed from the situation totally.... It was hard enough dealing with the grief of a cheating wife to begin with... and this recent contact (which I totally knew was a bad thing) felt good at first... a certain validation came from it... but like dominoes it fell... and the feelings started rushing back... Sometimes you have to try to slam the door to those things... before you get caught up in that oh so famous limboland of post divorce....
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