A Letter to my ex-Mother-In_law sosad05: Dear You-I cant believe we are where we're at today. I met you when I was only 17. I thought you were so cool. You and Js dad just got divorced and you were the most awesome 40 year old woman I knew. You went to the bars, you bought J & I alcohol, you worked out at the gym with me. I loved you more than my own mom and thought J was so lucky to have you. You had a rough couple of years during your divorce...in and out of relationship with loser guys. Each time, you would call J and ask him to move you out of the flavor of the month's house and you would file a restraining order. J came to your rescue again and again. J's little brothers had to watch you go through all of this. It didnt matter to me. I just loved you. After a few years of hell, you went back to J's father and he took you back with open arms. You were so lucky to divorce your husband, live with several different men, than decided it wasnt for you...and he took you back. Your life changed...no more drinking, partying...etc. You now appear to be the perfect stay home wife....what you were before you filed for divorce.
Now, J and I are divorced. All of our conversations about J's irresponsibility are forgotten. All the I love you as if you were my own are forgotten. I even tried to call you on Ms bday and you did all but hung up on me. I dont expect you to take my side but I thought I meant more to you than that. I guess not. You will die hating me. The divorce from J hurts as much as the end of my relationship with you. I loved you so much but apparently you just dealt with me because I was Js wife. You also seemed to have forgotten the pain and confusion of a divorce. It must be easy to sweep it all under the table. No wonder J is the way he is. I suppose your all smile and hugs to his new girlfriend. Im sure you sit there and tell her how horrible I am. Does it feel good?
Re: A Letter to my ex-Mother-In_law JNA: Just give it time...Time "heals" all...
That is her son and she sees him hurting
It is not your fault and not his...It is just how the cards fell...
Give it time and all will be well
JNA
Divorce affects a lot more than two people when it happens...
In time all will see that things just didn't work out and life is way too short to be angry for very long
Re: A Letter to my ex-Mother-In_law e-blogger: this is a very good letter - I feel the same way toward my inlaws. I called them twice - the first time to tell them about my husbands affair. My husband immediately was very angry that I had to "intrude" about his personal life, so he called his parents and basically demonized me in front of them. The second time I called the in-laws - they were very short with me. So I emailed them, but they ignored me.
My feelings exactly
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Now, J and I are divorced. All of our conversations about J's irresponsibility are forgotten. All the I love you as if you were my own are forgotten. I even tried to call you on Ms bday and you did all but hung up on me. I dont expect you to take my side but I thought I meant more to you than that. I guess not. You will die hating me. The divorce from J hurts as much as the end of my relationship with you. I loved you so much but apparently you just dealt with me because I was Js wife. You also seemed to have forgotten the pain and confusion of a divorce. It must be easy to sweep it all under the table. No wonder J is the way he is. I suppose your all smile and hugs to his new girlfriend. Im sure you sit there and tell her how horrible I am. Does it feel good? [/quote">
Re: A Letter to my ex-Mother-In_law sosad05: I take some satisfaction in knowing that she is a chronic smoker and is likely to die long before me. She better watch her words about me around my children or I will unfortunately shatter her "perfect grandma" image to my daughter someday. I'll let my daughter know what she did to me and what kind of a woman she truly was.
Re: A Letter to my ex-Mother-In_law LostTeacher: this is my life.
i had known my in-laws since i was 14. they were like second parents to me. his brother and sis-in-law were like my family.
when we seperated, they all stopped talking to me. my sis-in-law, one of my best friends, told me that she could never speak to me again.
when they seperated, i was the only one that listened to her, that was at her side, when his whole family turned their back on her.
and when the going got rough for me, she left me.
i haven't seen or spoken to them in over a year.
i miss them....but to me, that's not family. that's not who i want in my life....people that could just leave me like that.
i understand that they have to take the side of their son, and i wouldn't expect anything different....but i was a part of their family too, and to be cast aside like that.....i want a family that sees me as family...forever.
LT
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