Blazin's girl flowersdirtandgardengirl: Alright Blazin. I, for one, think that it's spectacular that you have a pretty good idea of what you want in a woman. I read through your list several times and I don't think there's anything in there that rings strongly of unreasonable, unrealistic or highly unlikely. I wish I had as clear an idea of what I'm looking for in a mate, however, I think what I'm looking for right now could be categorized as less than a mate and more like a cabana boy. But that's just me and I digress.
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Can handle anything life throws at her because she knows who she is.
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This is a huge influencing factor for me as well. Personally I have a really hard time with people who can't handle a curve ball or ten in their lives. Which isn't to say that you have to be robotic in life and completely unreactive to what's going around around you. But you've also got to be able to pick your battles. You've got to be able to determine if your response to something is proportionate to the gravity and magnitude and impact that it actually has in your life. Does being cut off by an old lady in a giant cadillac REALLY have to cause you to have an epileptic fit every time it happens? Do parking enforcement individuals cause you to have an apoplectic seizure just because you got a ticket for double parking?
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Understands what ‘commitment’ means.
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This is clearly up for discussion. More importantly I would have to say, shares your own personal belief of what comitment is to you. Because comitment to me involves several kitchen appliances, some South American farm animals and a priest, but hey, that's just me.
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Doesn’t have a quick temper.
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So I'm guessing my Crouching Chicken with One Wing Flapping move just because he moved my toothbrush is pretty much out of the question.
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Understands that any healthy relationship is based on love.
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And stick-to-it-tive-ness. And compatibility. And shared values. And shared interests. And a shared sense of self and the direction your lives are taking you. And similar approached to life. And similar wishes. In fact, love becomes those things. It stops being romance so quickly. A relationship is a partnership that is intermitantly punctuated with moments of intimacy and emotion. Love is, in my humble opinion, not about romance. Love is verb and a noun and sometimes even an adverb. But only in run-on sentences.
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Values love above all else, because really, without love, what do you have?
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See above.
So not only do I hope you find your lucky lady, individual Blazin'-isms and all, but I hope that one day I'll have half as clear of an idea of what I want and don't want and be able to follow through with it and not be such a goddamn emotional liability. But then again, that's just me and I digress.
And if you don't find her, Whiskey and I would be more than willing to split shifts. I'll need to check in with her about her individual scheduling needs and who will feed the dogs and all but I'm sure we can strike a compromise. As long as you're willing to let us jet off to Mexico regularly and chase after pool boys.
Oh wait, is that in violation of item #2? ;)
Re: Blazin's girl JimB: Hmmm.
You can quote me on this: the more narrowly you define the person you want to be with, the less likely you are to find that person.
Whatever happened to just living life the way you want, and allowing the people who come into your life to be whomever they choose to be?
Re: Blazin's girl WhiskeyGirl: [quote author=JimB link=topic=25059.msg237209#msg237209 date=1139030664">
the more narrowly you define the person you want to be with, the less likely you are to find that person.
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and........???
Sorry I'm not sure I understand the point here? Obviously it takes longer to find exactly what you want...are you saying we should all just settle for mediocre because whats really important is that we find someone...read anyone
Well not this chick 8) Only the best for me ;D and hey! ya know?...if I dont find him, I'll surround myself with cute cabana boys and palm trees....I'll be just fine ;)
[quote author=JimB link=topic=25059.msg237209#msg237209 date=1139030664">
Whatever happened to just living life the way you want, and allowing the people who come into your life to be whomever they choose to be?
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People who come into my life can certainly be whomever they choose to be...I would sure hope so.....doesn't mean I have to marry them...or even have a "realtionship" with them...does it? :-\ I can appreciate all people, all personalities and dispositions, etc.....but there is a certain type of person I am looking for in a romantic sense....and I guess my search is pretty narrow, thats okay with me...I have lots of close friends and family, my life is rich and full....I dont need to patch up any holes ...It will just be the icing on the cake when prince charming arrives ;)
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I hope that one day I'll have half as clear of an idea of what I want and don't want and be able to follow through with it and not be such a goddamn emotional liability. But then again, that's just me and I digress.[/quote">
GG, you are doing just fine my girl :) I, for one, think you are fantastic. Don't ever change...and keep smiling ;D We'll be surrounded by cabana boys before ya know it ;)
Re: Blazin's girl Chey: [quote author=JimB link=topic=25059.msg237209#msg237209 date=1139030664">
Hmmm.
You can quote me on this: the more narrowly you define the person you want to be with, the less likely you are to find that person.
Whatever happened to just living life the way you want, and allowing the people who come into your life to be whomever they choose to be?
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Agreed....it's good to have SOME definte rules about the other mate, but absolutely keeping an open mind brings lots of pleasant surprises :)
Re: Blazin's girl hudson: [quote author=JimB link=topic=25059.msg237209#msg237209 date=1139030664">
You can quote me on this: the more narrowly you define the person you want to be with, the less likely you are to find that person.
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Well, at least you're not saying she doesn't exist. ;)
Also, this quote makes me wonder about whether or not Jimb believes there is one person out there just for him. Cause if you do believe that, then it doesn't matter how narrowly you define them, it's still a 1 in a billion chance you'll cross paths. So what's the purpose of searching with odds that like? Rather than search, I'll just keep my eyes open and remain available. Personally, I believe that there is one true soulmate just for me.
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