Re: Read some things here....maybe not enough..please...could use some support 21218: it sucks to put everything in for a complete shitbomb.
you step up to the table, put it all in ... push all the chips in. and they suck.
sorry, but like my dad's been saying to me ... you would've spent the rest of your life putting it in for this dirtbag, or at least quite a few more years ... this guy is doing you a favor, the biggest favor you can imagine, by sabotaging a great, loving, caring relationship.
you'll eventually find someone who treats you like a princess and you'll wonder how you ever made it with someone who kept a foot out the door.
Re: Read some things here....maybe not enough..please...could use some support seashell61061: Thank you. Yes, I needed to hear that. I'm sorry for what you have gone through. I do understand. Obviously, I'm going through it too. I wish I could make all of our heartache go away. I'm not unrealistic, I'm only saying what I wish. It's so hard to still live with someone and.....I want to say pretend or not, but I'm not sure, protect may be a better word. I just thank you for responding because I just need to know I'm ok. I used to think I was ok and I will think I am again, but, right now, I don't think I am. Duh! So dumb....but it's where I'm at, at the moment....Thank you for listening.
Re: Read some things here....maybe not enough..please...could use some support seashell61061: I feel like I'm cracking up. I'm trying to keep myself together but I'm finding it hard. He brought boxes home for me. I don't even have a place to live. I don't remember feeling this kind of pain. I just wish we could work it out. But I say to myself, he's told me he doesn't love me and he's not sure he ever did. Why did he have to say that? He said a while back that he wanted sex and I said, why would I want to have sex with someone that doesn't love me. He says, I've let others use me before, why not him? WOW, that hurt. I just don't know what to do.....
Re: Read some things here....maybe not enough..please...could use some support flyaway: [quote author=seashell61061 link=topic=25067.msg238698#msg238698 date=1139321414">
He said a while back that he wanted sex and I said, why would I want to have sex with someone that doesn't love me. He says, I've let others use me before, why not him? WOW, that hurt. I just don't know what to do.....
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Wow.....I think this guy deserves the a$$hat award for sure! Where's the committe that decides these things.....JA....PG....where are you?
ugh....I'm sorry seashell.....do you have any supportive friends that would be willing to lend you a spare room till you find a place? I think that once the pain has faded....you will feel nothing but relief at being free from someone who see's you as "Useful" ugh. >:(
HUGS! :)
Flyaway
Re: Read some things here....maybe not enough..please...could use some support seashell61061: I'm stuck here for now. Can't leave as I do have some things here, my son is also still here until bootcamp in 2 weeks and I'm afraid I'll get abandonment if I do leave. It is so hard to see someone everyday that I know doesn't want me here. I feel so betrayed....I do have friends that are supportive but they don't understand. One has never been married, the other hasn't been married for 20 years....and doesn't even want to date and the other has been married for 20 some years. I'm fortunate though. I called a church and they're having an intensive workshop for 4 days. 13 hours a day. It's afiliated with Dr. Phil. It's not religion based. They're giving me a scholarship....I'm hoping for a transformation in my life. Or at least an attitude adjustment...Thanks for listening...
