Re: How Do I Breathe sosad05: Your husband is cruel, selfish piece of sh-t!! You deserve way better. Like someone above said, he is showing major red flags. I am so sorry you are going through this. You need to get away from him and find someone who loves you for YOU. Not, for what you can DO for them. Your in my prayers!
Re: How Do I Breathe PickingUpThePieces: Aw w8ting, it is not all your fault. Your husband is selfish! He wants to leave you because you had uterine cancer?! And because you should earn more and so that he can date, and oh, if you live up to his requirements at that time he will accept you back? He is not a man...he is a boy who needs to learn to grow up. I am sorry you have to deal with this. It is not easy. :( Keep coming here and posting, it will help you a lot.
Wishing you well,
PUP
Re: How Do I Breathe jadedangel: [quote author=W8tingToExhaleMD link=topic=25084.msg237250#msg237250 date=1139060994">
5. He wants to separate for a year so I can prove to him I can support myself financially, he is going to date and after 1 year if he is satisfied with what he sees then I can come back to him,
All in all it is my fault, if I had a job where I made at least $1,000 a week and he had his boat, suv and vacations maybe I would still have a husband(crying)
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[color=navy"> Well ... every one of your reasons ... seem like pieces of crap a$$ excuses given to you because he is a selfish b*$t*rd -- and he doesn't want to just come to terms with real reasons he is going ... by no means is that your fault. He is manipulating you and it sounds like it is working -- No ... 1k a week .. is not going to keep a husband .. because as soon as you have that --- he needs more. It's the way of our world. Money should never be the issue that "keeps" a relationship together .. unless it's one that is contracted on a corner.
That being said .... that f'n excuse ... of all of them -- reallly struck a key cord with me. I pray that you call tell him to f -- off and kick his a$$ out the door quicker than you can blink in that year .... I'm sorry -- but you have got to be able to read that and know logically in your mind he is a complete jacka$$. Did he forget that the vows one takes in a marriage .. INCLUDE -- for richer or poorer ..... not -- if one of us stable then the other is screwed. Sorry --- but none of his excuses are valid .... especially this one (and the no kids one) .... that is not love .. and you deserve so much more than this man could EVER give you. You can see right now he can't care enough about you to help you while you find your path ...... he certainly won't care about you when you found it. [/color">
Re: How Do I Breathe W8tingToExhaleMD: I want to thank everyone who replied, it made me cry, I still feel like I am letting GOD down, I made a promise and I failed to keep it, will GOD forgive me, can I forgive me?
Last night it became clear, he was waiting in his van, fell asleep and being the caring woman that I am I went to wake him seeing how obiviously tired he was and he yelled at me, so I retreated to the house after he said he was coming in shortly. Waiting another 15 minutes and fearing for his safety I called him on his cell and he said "WHAT" he then hung up on me and refused to take further calls from me and left and didn't return for several hours.
I can see clearly now, but how am I to survive before my surgery on the 16th of February and then my recovery, knowing that he is to care for me and I am totally dependant on him for the next 6 weeks.
Re: How Do I Breathe dgiirl: What promise have you failed to keep? Your wedding vows? How are you failing to keep your wedding vows? If it was up to you, would you try to work on your marriage? Would you not get a divorce? Would you seek help? Would you still respect and honour your husband? He's the one who is choosing this path, not you. And part of respecting and honouring your husband is allowing him to make his own choices in life and to stand by him. God knows what's going on. God knows what is in your heart and what you want in life. You havent failed to keep any promises. You cannot control your husband and you cannot blame yourself for your husbands actions. All you have to do is realize what respect and honour your husband means. And sometimes that means allowing him to make his own decisions, respecting those decisions, and letting him go.
Right now, you have to focus on yourself and your health. And I truely believe god gives us just enough for us to handle, otherwise he wouldnt give it to us. You can get through this. Listen and pray for god to help you through it, and he will! He's never left you and never will.
