I Know I shouldn't be brokenbaby: but I have realized that I am avoiding going out into town because I do not want to see my stbxh. It just dawned on me that this is part of what I have been doing. Seeing him is very painful for me and we live in a very small town so it is practically unavoidable. Anyone figured out how to deal with this? Or is this just another set of emotions I have to work through? ???
Re: I Know I shouldn't be alonewith2: Do you mean going out to have a good time....or just going out to buy milk?
I live in a small town, too, so I know what you mean. It's easier for me because I know that the chances of running into my STBX are minimal. He lives right next door to the grocery store, but I know that he'll be sleeping during the times I'd go shopping. He works 3rd shift. I also don't have to worry about running into him when I go out on the weekends because I rarely go out, but when I do, it would be on the weekends that he has our daughter. And if I were to see him out then, I'd be pissed!!
However, last weekend I did go out, my niece babysat for me. I was scared of seeing him, but it turned out his band was playing at a different bar than the one I was out. So I haven't had that problem yet.
During our first separation 3 years ago, I went out a lot....just so I could run into him. It wasn't the smartest thing to do considering he was always with the OW, but part of me wanted her to see me, too. Me and my big pregnant belly LOL.
I don't really know what to tell you, but I did want you to know that I understand your concerns. It's hard to see them out, but you can't lock yourself in your house forever! It's unhealthy! Besides, if you don't go out, how are you going to meet new people?
