Confirmation received last night doseyclwn: Well, they say don't try to find out something if you don't want to know. Basically, I knew my STBX was lying to me about something. You dont' live with someone for 7 1/2 years and not know them. She has been coming over 3 to 4 times a week to spend time with the kids here, and I have suspected stuff. To make a long story long, I figured i had a right to see what was happening on my computer, so I installed a key logger. She came over to sit with the kids yesterday and I went out. when I came back, I checked it, and there were some very graphic chat logs and emails that she had been writing to this guy she's been seeing for awhile WHILE MY KIDS WERE RUNNING AROUND PLAYING. She was online pretty much the whole time she was here doing that stuff. I confronted her and she turned all pscyho on me, saying how she was happy and that she'd rather do this than be with her kids or me. I guess I"m glad I found out when I did, but it doesn't feel very good. I'm still in shock, and having a hard time not contacting her unnecessarily. Oh well, I see a lawyer on Monday, so we'll take care of it then.
Re: Confirmation received last night sudboy: ding ding ding! We have a winner!
...and the lesson here is?
anything you type on a computer can be logged. But then hey, we already knew this didn't we? Not trying to freak anyone out here -- them's just the facts.
Sud "the sysadmin" boy
P.S. Doseyclwn -- sorry you had to find out this way. Would you have been just as hurt though if she'd just told you herself?
Re: Confirmation received last night PiscesGoddess: Damn doseyclown.. sorry you had to see that... ::) But its not anything you didnt suspect anyway right? Now you just have confirmation. And the fact that she said she wants nothing to do with you or YOUR kids? ugh.. WTF is her problem? Hang in there.. try and stay strong..and one of these days you'll be glad you're rid of her..You and your kids deserve better than someone that treats them like trash.
Wishing you strength..
Pisces
Re: Confirmation received last night doseyclwn: I know she loves the kids, she just cares more about herself than anything else. When I confronted her on the phone, she was pretty defiant about it. I have a hard time believing she would do this. It's like everything she's told me for awhile has been a lie.
And I dont' think she would have told me about it. At least, she would not have told me that she was doing that when we split up.
This really sucks. I don't want to hate her or hold any animosity, but stuff like this makes it really hard.
Re: Confirmation received last night Falcon554: [quote author=doseyclwn link=topic=25122.msg237697#msg237697 date=1139147385">
I know she loves the kids, she just cares more about herself than anything else. When I confronted her on the phone, she was pretty defiant about it. I have a hard time believing she would do this. It's like everything she's told me for awhile has been a lie.
And I dont' think she would have told me about it. At least, she would not have told me that she was doing that when we split up.
This really sucks. I don't want to hate her or hold any animosity, but stuff like this makes it really hard.
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How old is she? My wife got that way for a bit like 2 months when she really did not want to be around my kids. She is not happy, she sounds very depressed and trying to make herself feel better.
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