WEDDINGS... newandconfused: So this past weekend I went to a wedding where I ran into a lot of old friends from school. Well, since I am now SOLO, it was a very different experience.
Different in that it SUCKED.
I had a few people ask me where "STBX" was--and each time I would say, "We're getting a divorce." and the reactions varied from shock and surprise to one girl, leaving the room in tears b/c she was so embarrassed (and b/c we used to all hang out together and I think she was just plain sad that it didn't work out...) Needless to say, I forgot that people generally take dates to these functions, so when everyone was coupling up, there I was, standing alone--wishing I could be anywhere but there...
I felt so angry that I was in this situation. SO MAD that he won't come back to me...and so sad that "THE CHEESE STANDS ALONE"...
stupid sleestak.
anyway, that's why today I have a emotional hangover. Funny that all the wine drank that night didn't affect me the next morning...at least that's one bit of good news.
Happy Monday to everyone. :P
Re:WEDDINGS... bamboo: I have 2 weddings coming up and I am not looking forward to going to either of them alone. I hope I'll still have fun, but it will feel different showing up without the stbx. Hopeully there will be other single people there that I know.
Isn't it interesting to see peoples reactions when you tell them about the divorce. I am to the point now where I enjoy people telling me that he didn't deserve me in the first place. Some of the people I've ran into recently (from high school) didn't even know we got married let alone divorced!
Re:WEDDINGS... picadilly: Jersey, Snoopy... they didn't deserve to be with you great gals. :)
I know that feeling, 2 weeks after my stbx left me, I had to go to a friends wedding. We had already replied that "we" would go but obviously as the groom was my child hood friend, she never attended. I felt I had to be there, they were at our wedding & well, I needed to get out.
It was, akward, sitting next to an empty seat, most people there already knew about the break up so they never asked about her. I had some fun, but it wasn't the same & since I drove, I didn't drink.
Like you Snoopy, I was so mad at her, for leaving me in a situation like that.
I feel stronger now, I can do things on my own now, more so then back then. I don't feel so wierd about them anymore. I have 2 more weddings to go to this year, my cousin's is in LA, so I'll be flying down myself & staying with another cousin. No one from my family can make it besides me, but my cousins are all about my age, so it'll be fun I think. Only 1 of them is single, he's the one I'm staying with, so it'll be boys night out most nights I'm sure.
It may not be the best, but it gets easier.
Salute
Re:WEDDINGS... janee: I have a wedding reception to attend in a couple of weeks. Going with a friend, so it should be okay. But I know what you mean when people ask where your ex is and the reactions. Some people get so dramatic! Act like divorce does not exist! It's annoying! Ever read Bridget Jones' Diary? She refers to married people as "Smug Marrieds". My favorite quote when asked why not married " We'd be happy as larks if people like you didn't conspire to make us feel stupid, just because your jealous".
We are singletons! Just deal and be happy for us!
Re:WEDDINGS... incoherentlonghorn: Snoopy,
That sucks, thanks for the heads up...I will be finding a chum to attend upcoming weddings.
I had to be a bridesmaid in my best friends wedding the week before my split. Fortunately, hardly anyone else knew us because we fought the entire after party. He sat there sulking in the corner and that infuriated me because the bride was worried. How screwed up is that.
I don't know what is worse tying to smile in pictures while wanting to vomit or having to be asked where is your ex, my gosh with crying friends.
Take care,
LL
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