Intro julietl66: Hi everyone,
Just found this board this morning, and am thrilled to have finally found a supportive place. My stbx and I separated in October. He asked me to go stay with my mom while we went to counseling. All was going well, or at least better. He bought me a beautiful V-Day gift, then decided he just HAD to go to Daytona Bike Week. I was against it-didn't think it's something to be done when you're in the middle of trying to put your marriage back together! But, apparently our marriage wasn't a priority to him. Anyway, I confronted him with some issues while he was gone. He returned 2 weeks later and served me with papers in our marriage counselors parking lot! Then he went to the bank and took all our money. Now he's trying to keep me out of the house, and get support from me.
I just feel like a fool! How long will it take for the feelings to fade?
Thanks for listening.
Julie
Re:Intro notbychoice: First of all welcome....You have found a great supporting site with great people who can help you through this painful process.
I wish I knew the words to say to make it all better but unfortunately they dont exist.....the only healer is time. Time really does heal all. It has been 8 months for me and I am much further along then I ever thought I would have been. You will be amazed at the strength you will find within yourself. Stay strong.
Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers and I hope things get easier for you soon.
Re:Intro incoherentlonghorn: Oh Juliet...welcome to OJAR.
Bummer about the bank account, my s2bx did the same thing. Except I was on vacation in Houston looking for an apartment when suddenly my debit card didn't work. So I still trusted him.
Then he charged up credit cards b4 the lines of credit were frozen, in addition, to opening more. He can't do anything now, right.
Then we froze the opening and closing of accounts, he started charging up cards that have been dormant for years, but only those in my name. The trust has evaporated, but I wanted to trust him. Hence, I also felt like a fool each time. I guess that was my downfall with him; trust with open eyes.
SO watch out until it is over. Fortunately for keepsake, I don't think the feelings fade completely. But the pain decreases in severity each time he pulls a new doozy. Or at least it fades faster. To a gradual and healthy recovery...
Hang in there,
LL
Re:Intro julietl66: Thanks for the support and well wishes. It's comforting to hear that others have been there. I'm just trying to get through it day by day. Thankfully I have a wonderful therapist, and am feeling a little better after a good session last night.
Re:Intro ChrisJane: Welcome... You'll find many of us went through this same thing. I was one of the lucky ones and 7 months later my divorce was final.
You'll find that inner strength.
