not sure what to do bella70: Hello! I am so glad I found this site. I am wondering what I should do, and hope that perhaps someone who has been here can give me some advise.
I am 25 and have been married for 2 years. We were living together/dating for 3 before we got married. He has always threatened to leave, but has never been serious, always just trying to get a reaction. Our relationship has never been great, we even went to therapy for a while.
Just recently, he came to me and told me that he wants a divorce, seriously. He claims that we are too different, and that he is not willing to put in any more work for our relationship. He says that he is not happy, his life is not what he wants, and he knows for sure that it can never be what he wants as long as I am in it.
I am not sure what to do. Do I accept this, and try to move on? Do I try to change his mind? I worry that if it is not this time, it will be some time in the future. I really dont know how I will make it on my own. I have a 4 yr old w/severe special needs, and financially I have nothing. Through out our relationship, he went to college, finished, and is now working in his field. Now, I am in my 3rd semester of school, and need to be able to finish in order to be able to survive on my own financially. I dont want the relationship to end, but I suppose what I want doesnt matter much right now.
How do I handle this situation? ???
Re:not sure what to do Lumpy: Is the child yours together? If so I'm sure you know your spouse will have to support him. I've found from my experience that any hope for reconciliation will have to come from him. Would advise letting it go (easier said I know) unless he changes his tune. A reoccuring theme on this site seems to be "you can't make an unhappy person happy." Chances are he's blaming you for his own sense of unhappiness. Talk to him about holding off on the proceedings until you are out of school and more financially capable. If he has any empathy for you or your child he may agree to this. Try and stay focused on your education and taking care of your child emotionally and financially. Stay sane.
