Dating Do's and Dont's for females Brian75034: Hope mentioned on here how the dating "rules" have changed so much since she was last dating. And it was pretty humerous and light hearted. But, it made me start thinking about conversations Ive had with my girlfriend and when she had to start dating again after her divorce. Things she almost found out the hard way on what NOT to do while dating.
So, I decided to create a list of dating "rules". (This could go for the guys too but, unfortunetly, the "risks" are almost always incurred on the females. :( )
1. DON'T let the guy pick you up at your house.
2. DO meet him somewhere in public.
3. DO drive yourself to the location.
4. DONT let your date (or any guy) "get" your drink for you (unless the bottle top is still capped/sealed). Too many date rape drug stories.
5. DO tell your friends where you are going and what time you will be back.
6. DO doubledate or meet him with his and your friends.
7. DON'T let him come up to your place after (or before) the date.
8. DON'T give him your home address or home phone # (you can do a reverse lookup and get your address- cell phones are safe...for now)
9. DON'T get into his car alone for whatever reason.
10. DON'T trust him just because he was referred by someone else. Chances are that person does not know the guy THAT well.
11. DON'T have too many alcoholic drinks.
12. DO have fun and enjoy yourself! ;D Just be safe!!
I hope im not bumming anyone out, but its better safe than sorry. Im sure most of this is common sense and Im sure 99% of the guys are just fine and safe to date but all it takes is one predator to hurt someone forever.
Are there any others I might have missed? Also, any web links that talks about this sort of thing?
Brian
Re:Dating Do's and Dont's for females ChristyM: While these were good pointers even back when I was 21 and dating, they are so much more applicable now. How sad that we live in that type of society :(
Christy
Re:Dating Do's and Dont's for females bit pusher: Fuck. If that's how it works stateside these days, I'm glad I'm living on a small island ... about the only dating rule is Don't put her in a taxi alone at night ... oh, and keep the crackhead repellant (pepper spray) handy.
-bp
Re:Dating Do's and Dont's for females blue_eyes: I think all of the advice that was given is good but I also think it may be a little overkill. I am certainly not wanting to endanger myself but I also don't want to live paranoid either. One question I have to is this, how long do you carry on this behavior before you deem this individual safe to bring home, give you # to, etc?
Some of my suggestions are these:
1.Talk on the phone or chat with the person before you go out with them at least a few different times. It might even be smart to write down some of what they say. Then, later refer to those notes and make sure they are keeping the story straight.
2. Make sure someone knows about this person you are meeting. Have them call you and set up a code if things aren't going well. Make sure that you have the info of person you are dating where it can be found, if you can't.
3. I've used the internet dating a fair amount since my divorce, not recently though. (However, it looks like now that I will be going back to that.) From my experiences all of these guys have been decent and half of them are as anxious as you are.
Re:Dating Do's and Dont's for females ChristyM: Well, here in my small town, just a couple weekends ago there was a girl on a date with someone and while they were out, he managed to slip something into her drink and took her home and raped her. This guy was a blind date set up by some people she knew and obviously trusted their judgement. I think you have to use your best judgement but not be lulled into thinking these things don't happen.
Christy
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