Re:Dating Do's and Dont's for females ChrisJane: I work in a college town. I was shocked at the number of girls and even guys that are date raped daily. Most go uptown hang out, something gets into their drinks and then its to late. All it takes is one blink and your drink can be fixed.
Re:Dating Do's and Dont's for females banshee: The "rules" may seem a bit much but, unfortunately, it's something that we all have to be aware of. There are too many stories out there of women that have been raped, beaten or simply disappear. And, for every story that is told, there are many that aren't.
I've found that meeting people on line has been a good way to find out a little about them and determine if I'm interested. When I went to meet someone for the first time, I chose a public place that I was very familiar with and knew people that worked there. I let several friends know where I was going, who I was meeting, what time I expected to be back and even gave 2 of them his cell # and email address. Seemed a little paranoid but I wasn't going to take any chances. It's sad but you just can't be too careful.
Re:Dating Do's and Dont's for females Brian75034: banshee, it does not seem paranoid at all! I thinks that a great routine for meeting someone new for the first time.
Re:Dating Do's and Dont's for females bit pusher: Letting someone know where you're going is a long way from paranoid ... some of the rest of the suggestions offered seem a little over the top to me ... over the top in such a fashion that I would not go out with someone under those constraints -- for fuck's sake, if she thinks I'm a stalker why on earth am I going out with her in the first place.
'course, some of this is situational too ... just about anyone I could date on this island already knows where I live or knows several people who know me. Small-town living at its best ... 'course, if you break up the entire fucking town is going to be talking about it for three weeks, but maybe that's the price you pay.
oh well.
-bp
Re:Dating Do's and Dont's for females akua: My single male friends gave great advice when I got divorced, since I was meeting many men who never married...
Whether he asks or not, let him know when it happened, and how long you were married. All additional language is deemed emotionally charged and prone to analysis.
If he says that he'd be really concerned about hurting you, he's usually got some poor assumptions of his own about women.
If he finds your fragility an attraction or a project, get rid of him quickly. (the same holds true for a divorced male)
A never-married man will remain very perplexed by how to treat you, even beyond several dates. If you don't seem laid-back, he will assume you have baggage and RUN.
Never say a divorce made you "enlightened." He wants to know more or as much as you about relationships.
A divorced woman as a bed buddy puts you in a "vulnerable girl" place that you will never overcome.
Better to date a divorced man - they are generally looking for the same.
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