I feel like I am dying today AMG: Each little milestone where I think, If this could happen (ex. vday) and he can still not contact me...then it must really be over. I dont know how to get over him, I dont know how to let him go. I get mad at myself because he seems to be doing it with such ease. How come so many people use the "I'm confused" line? I think that only makes it worse. Then you receive so many mixed signals, which makes it so much harder. I love him so much, I can literally feel my heart breaking.
Re: I feel like I am dying today N U M B: I'm sorry AMG ((BIG HUGS!))... All I can say is that it will get better. Time seems like it can be our worst enemy but is ultimately our best friend. The dreaded "confused" line is right up there with "We're just not working out" line. Everything but the truth is fluff. How long has it been since the two of you split up?
Re: I feel like I am dying today Neej: Hey AMG,
Can I copy paste your text for me?
Same situation for me - my heart broke the day before yesterday and the jist of it being yours,
Wife says:
- I am confused,
- I don't know, - the answere to every question I ask
- Let's take a break
Uncertanity is the worst............
Cruel: If my counter part had said "I love someone else", it would have been easier to find closure.
I feel for you truly, I am consoling myself by saying, there is nothing I can do.......
I am opting to giving my partner, the space she needs and to decide.
Obviously you should consider that he or she has their side to.
As hard it is - just wait and again, it isn't you, right? So what else can you do.
I don't believe I am writing this, I am at work and can concentrate on anything.........
It's like twilight zone.
I love my wife also more than anything and can't live without her.
But it takes to people for a relationship, my wife needs to decide.
But again YOU ARE right - uncertanity is the worst. You can't even dream/hope for anything as it could go either way.
Re: I feel like I am dying today lightseeker: Oh, do I know what you mean! I've been in this delicate marriage for almost a year now where she seems to be stuck in limbo. Loves me but doesn't know if she can stand the idea of "forever". Nothing ever progresses - and it doesn't really get worse either. We are just there. I love her too much (or haven't worked up the courage) to pressure her to make a definitive decision - because I don't WANT her to leave. And one of the worst things about this limbo is that not only are we uncertain, but EVERYTHING is uncertain. You can't make any plans because you can take nothing for granted. Everything from, should be plan a summer vacation together with the family, to should we put in replacement windows... If try to do something as simple as plan a vacation six months away, I have no way of knowing if she'll still be around. I can't decide to replace windows because if she leaves I'll have to sell the house and would that be money wasted? So those are stupid examples, but you get the idea. It feels like living out of a suitcase. I hope that you don't let it go on as long as I have - aint no fun. I wish you the best.
Re: I feel like I am dying today AMG: Its been 3 weeks and 1 day. Sunday was the last time we had any contact. I am done with that! I guess today is just a bad day. I just cant stop hoping with every fiber of my being. All the "nice" things he said run through my head. Then, all the "not so nice" things he said follow and his actions seem to back up the "not so nice" things. God, it just hurts so bad. I can not and will not ever understand how people can just turn off their feelings. Wish I could.
Something deep inside says he will be back, actually I know he will be back. He wants a friendship, and I just can not do that. I dont even think he is even "thinking about us". I dread the day I have to be strong and tell him he is out of my life forever. Maybe then he will "think about us".
I too am at work and I dont know how I have made it through these days. Uncertanity is definately the worst part. I sure wish there was on OFF button to these feelings!
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