Re: I feel like I am dying today Neej: Lightseeker,
If I may ask, how ling have you been living like this.
Because very similar situation here. But indifferent to you, I initiated that we move out of our house and each go to our parents houses for week or so. To get a clear head and then to decide.
Living together has become painfull, she interacts less with me.....and I feared if we stay in the "middle" to much longer we may end up rotting and hating each other.
I did you situation for a month.
Have I made a mistake? Should I do what you did? I picked up the line somewhere- "In order to save the city, we had to give it up". If I stay with "my" city, wouldn't the upcoming potential battles ruin it for good?
Please I do not intend to make you insecure, but your post has made me insecure of what I am doing. I love my wife and today (Day3) I feel like I am dying can't do anything, contentrate.....
Did I make a mistake, especially I read somewhere on this site couples who stay away 1 month - most don't get back together - it was in the book you can download here - getting over my ex.
God, did I just sign my own doom??? It's hard to know for sure what is right and wrong. I know pressuring is NEVER a good idea, but the middle spot here is killing me. I can't dream/hope/plan anything like..holidays as she might not be with me by then maybe...
Re: I feel like I am dying today doseyclwn: AMG,
First of all, sorry about your situation. I and a lot of others here know how you feel. I can't tell you how to solve your specific situation, but I can tell you that Ojar has pretty much saved my ass on more than one occaision over the last few weeks.
I can tell you that I almost envy you, in a way. I have to see my STBX (soon to be ex) several times a week, as we have 2 children together. And I'm not supposed to "talk" about it. But hang in there. I have taken the tactic of simply walking through the pain, and there IS a great deal of pain here. But I'm walking through it, not avoiding it, the idea being that in this situation, you HAVE to feel the pain, so that by meeting it head on, I can deal with it more quickly. in any case, good luck.
