Re: Can you breakup and still live under the same roof? Lumpy: Keep in mind that as this progresses you're going to be subject to situations that you'd rather not see or hear. Answering phonecalls from potential suitors, her staying out all night, her having to hide things from you, or you from her. I advise strongly against it. It doesn't make for a clean break...
Re: Can you breakup and still live under the same roof? gulfcoast: if you are breaking up then there wasn't much living going on under the roof to start with...merely existing
Re: Can you breakup and still live under the same roof? MikeB: Hi there,
Until Christmas, I lived under the same roof with my ex whom I still love very deeply. What you wrote sounds very very familiar...We were always best friends, too...but when I was down, she got sad, too. But still I loved her company and told her I would be miserable either way, but spending time together gave me a lot of comfort... Well, we moved out over christmas, she initiated NO CONTACT since January the 2nd, we haven't had contact since then and don't even know each others address... As I said, it gave me comfort and we still did a lot of things we both love and had some good time, but it was draining her and that's why we moved out...
Just don't expect anything. Of course it might be different in your case (and I sure hope will be), but with me, we were always best friends, had the best time of our lives together, it was the best relationship anyone of us ever had, it worked okay living together after she dumped me and I thought we'll always have contact and will always be friends... and now she doesn't miss me, want's no cantact etc...
The problem is that whether she admits it or not, she needs some space and some time without you, and you probably need that, too.. So I'd think twice and talk to her about that.
Well, I hope for you that it works and that you get what you want.(probably her, isn't it?) But you both need to heal first...
Needless to say, I hope that in my case we'll have contact again, be best friends again and hopefully get another chance.
All the best to you, don't expect anything, give her the time and space she needs, take the time and space you need, heal and than do your best to build on that, a new friendship (without the weight of the breakup) and maybe more...
-Mike
Re: Can you breakup and still live under the same roof? tara: Not necessarily -- plenty of platonic roommates hang out a lot, and "live" very well, without ever having a romantic relationship.
My ex and I lived together for about a month after the official breakup, but there were no dates/anyone else other than realtors and repair people brought into the house during that time.
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Re: Can you breakup and still live under the same roof? sadgirl951: It would be hard to beak up and live together. When I was dating with my xh, there was a point when we broke up and he would sleep in another room. It was torture for me. I eventually told him to come back next to me and we ended up still dating(just to end up getting divorced, man I'm a fool). Anyway, this is what happened to me. You are your own person. I can only give advice, hoping I am giving good advice. I hope I do help. :-)
I would just sit her down and talk things out. Hopefully she will understand and want to stay together. Or maybe she is set in her ways already and decides to leave. That's something you have to prepare for. I know it's hard right now. Just remember to stay focused, stay strong, and stay brave. I hope everything works out for you.
Hugs To You!
LONA
(LovedOnceNeverAgain)
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