Re: Can you breakup and still live under the same roof? bleedingheart: Hey buddy,
I'm glad you check out the site and decided to post your story. The Ojarians are great people and are here to help. When you have some time, give them your full story including "her" old situation so the people here have a better understanding of where you are coming from.
Take care,
BH
Re: Can you breakup and still live under the same roof? playboy: well, we were up and down sometimes..when we are happy, its great , cuz we were great friends , best friends before we got into this relationship.
But when we are down, its becuz of me, i think of the past, the fun we had, its almost like that and then she notices that I'm upset about something and asks me about it. I tell her and she is upset that i'm hurt.
It soon becomes frustrating for her to see me like that.
She asks if it will be easier on me if she moved out. I said no, cuz i really love her companionship. But in the same token, she doesnt want to always see me like that, to be hurt. In reality, i'm hurt either way, if she moves and I lose her companionship, or she stays..its so so hard to decide what to do.
And for the record, we are living in seperate rooms now, so we have our space...but share everything else, bathroom, kitchen and what nots.
We do take breaks from each other, I mean we dont see each other until late at nites when she's done work, thats the one and ONLY time... And I do go travelling out of town a fair bit on the weekends so its not like we spend 8 hours a day seeing each other...maybe 4? or less...maybe 2
Re: Can you breakup and still live under the same roof? JNA: [quote author=playboy link=topic=25566.msg243334#msg243334 date=1140065655">
well, we were up and down sometimes..when we are happy, its great , cuz we were great friends , best friends before we got into this relationship.
But when we are down, its becuz of me, i think of the past, the fun we had, its almost like that and then she notices that I'm upset about something and asks me about it. I tell her and she is upset that i'm hurt.
It soon becomes frustrating for her to see me like that.
She asks if it will be easier on me if she moved out. I said no, cuz i really love her companionship. But in the same token, she doesnt want to always see me like that, to be hurt. In reality, i'm hurt either way, if she moves and I lose her companionship, or she stays..its so so hard to decide what to do.
And for the record, we are living in seperate rooms now, so we have our space...but share everything else, bathroom, kitchen and what nots.
We do take breaks from each other, I mean we dont see each other until late at nites when she's done work, thats the one and ONLY time... And I do go travelling out of town a fair bit on the weekends so its not like we spend 8 hours a day seeing each other...maybe 4? or less...maybe 2
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Sounds like you have a "great" women that loves you a lot...
Talk to her and work with her to figure out things whether on your side or hers
My ex-wife was like her and we are still "great" friends...
Hell I still go to her Family Reunions and fish and do lots of things with her BF
I just couldn't deal with her at the time and that sounds like what is happening with her although I don't know all ok...
JNA
BTW...Her BF didn't like me much last year when I tacked his pants to the roof and they came off...
LOL...Hey he was Sand bagging
Relax dude and work it out with her ok...
Re: Can you breakup and still live under the same roof? jojo: no no no no no no no no no no no no no no
just 10p ;)
Re: Can you breakup and still live under the same roof? ga_sunshyne: Playboy...for me it didn't work. After our divorce was final....I lived with my XH for 2 months following. He was still seeing the OW that he cheated on me with and it killed me to be at "our" home and have him come in from a date with her. Not to mention at the same time....we were supposedly working on reconciling. We shared the same bed and to have him come home from being out with her then have the nerve to make the moves on me just tore me up....mentally...emotionally...and physically. I had to move out. Take it he didn't want me to, but for me and my sanity...I had to. Nonetheless within 4 mos. of that he moved into her home. So pretty much he was having his cake and eating it too. Just as he had been for the 2 years prior to our separation.
But, that's not to say that it couldn't work for others...but for me it didn't.
Sunshyne
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