Re: last night was bad Topaz: [quote author=EQwidowX2B link=topic=25587.msg243052#msg243052 date=1140033067">
Next thing i know i look at the clock and it's 3:30. then I remembered something someone said to me "if he wants out so bad why hasn't he filed anything....let go and let God, and if he really wants out so bad he will file." how do you get over having nights and days like this? how do you make yourself stop thinking?
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I don't know enough about your situation, EQwX2B, but sometimes people are not willing to be responsible about filing, even if they want out. I'm referring to your husband. I know you're still sitting on the fence about what to do, but YOU may need to be the one to do the filing, if you want to have peace of mind.
Sometimes "letting go and letting God" means being able to hear what we need to do, and being pro-active about it.
Re: last night was bad IlliniGirl: I'm sorry that you are/were having such a hard time honey. I can assure you that eventually things will get better, but it can be pretty tough until you get to that point.
Know that whatever you need, we are here for you, and that you will come out of this a stronger woman.
many Hugs,
~AB
Re: last night was bad EssieDotCom: thanks all.
Lome- I know EQ is his out. He's out on the ship right now for a month and can't play (Evil laugh and grin) and goes out in May for 6 months (No Eq, omg he might actually have time to hurt!) I did get a long email from him b4 he left for the ship. Very heartfelt and thought out etc.. But then i think he did that bc he knows i cant call him on the ship or get a hold of him and let those feelings go. It helps to know that there are some other women in this world who have been, or are in the same shoes as I am.
Angel-baby- thanks for the words of wisdom :) I know this will make me stronger, but right now i"m as weak as i can get :'(
Re: last night was bad Lome: Girl,
Here is your Saturday night Hug! I will give you the evil "mahaha"!!!!! I think that "shoe shopping" is a great thing to think on right now....something strappy that says, " Oh baby, do I need a foot message"---> Hey us widows can dream ::)
I think the healthiest thing for him will be being shipped out....regular routine, time for reflection, and going cold turkey from fantasy Island.
But, this time is going to just be a b#tch for you....Focus on becoming super woman! Work out, get a social network, and start living single....
This limbo really is hard. Mine is playing right now (new game)..still won't sleep with me...and acting weird again.....
Maybe, prayer will help. I was never religious prior to this....now I am so Zen and I do find that talking to that "higher power" does give me some peace....My Mother in Law says that God's time is different than our own...so, maybe all you need is time.
Let me know how you are...
Re: last night was bad EssieDotCom: Thankz Lome :) you have no idea how much you make me feel worlds better. I think about if i were at home in SC with him and he wanst out on the ship, where would he be? Humm one guess is In front of his PC and laptop, once again ignorning me. I never talked to my mother in law about the things that have went on between my husband and I. I guess I should have or maybe i should? My husband never talked to her about whats going on, he felt the need to hide it from her and told her that the kids and I were moving back to wv (my hometown) bc he'd be gone for most of the yr this yr and he didn't want to have to say goodbye to the kids more than once this yr. How horrible to lie to your mother about something so serious?!
Your mother in law is right, Things happen in God's time. The old joke goes, Man makes plans, God laughs. Hugs go out to youl bc i know where you are with the gaming and acting weird an no time spent. I think I"m gona start me an MSN group called "Gaming Widows" for support. What ya think?
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