Having a difficult time Sparky: Hi all,
Life kind of sucks now. My husband has been not holding up his end of the financial bargain over the past few months. It's very strange-when I try to talk to him about it, he mentions his four years of military service-like that exempts him from working now! It is at the point where I don't know how we are going to pay May's rent.
His Mom will likely bail him out, like always.
If you've never wanted to kill your spouse, then you've never been in love, I suppose. Our relationship isn't working real well on many different levels. I feel like I'm going crazy, I'm just trying to go to work and maintain somehow.
He did get a pizza job this week. I'm glad he got work, I'm just pissed he took a month before applying anywhere. Unemployment ran out last month. He is reluctant to give up non-essentials-DSL, Gym membership, etc. we discuss it, he agrees and then changes him mind
Well must go to work *sigh* I want to crawl into a cave and come out when this is over.
Sparky
Re:Having a difficult time Spectrum: [quote author=Sparky link=board=20;threadid=2563;start=0#msg22009 date=1081026256">
If you've never wanted to kill your spouse, then you've never been in love, I suppose. [/quote">
How interesting. I used to think that having moments of virtual hatred for my STBX was just part of being married, two sides of the same coin. Now I have a different take on it- I was in a completely f*cked up relationship where my STBX was using me to vent his anger at the world. He hated the world, he dumped it on me, and then I hated him. Then I loved him. Then I hated him. Then I cried my eyes out. Sounds like a real picnic, doesn't it?
Ah yes, reason #5037 why I won't be taking the STBX back. :P
I think everyone has moments where they feel like stuffing their partner's head in the toilet and giving them a swirlie, but I suspect that if you find yourself actually hating them from time to time (and this may or may not apply to you, Sparky), you may have bigger problems than it seems on the surface.
So, Sparky, I'm a little confused... you are currently back together with your STBX? Or he is living with you during the divorce?
Spectrum.
Re:Having a difficult time Sparky: Spectrum,
Thanks for your kind reply. We are still very much married. We are in a situation where we are very much financially interdependent on each other for survival right now. He is seriously considering joining up with the military again. It would mean he'd be out at sea for three to six months-which is fine, we've done it before. He just got out after a four year stint in Sept. He is considering making it a career. That means a nomadic existence and multiple periods of seperations with someone I don't like most of the time. Uh, no. I have no idea of the how and when of seperating though. I'm just saving some money and trying to be patient with him and with myself. Your ex sounds like good riddance, Yikes!
Sorry you had to go through that.
Take care,
Sparky
