Stupidity? vetlady: So, I guess I should've taken all the advice I see posted about jumping back into a relationship too quickly. Maybe someday I will learn...
Started seeing this wonderful man about 6 weeks ago. Things were heavenly. He really liked me, and I really liked him. Then abruptly it's over. He says he needs a break from us, and I can't help but feel like I'm the one being left again. Of course it doesn't hurt nearly as much, but it still hurts. I wonder if something is wrong with me. My best friend, God bless her, who has stuck by my side through all the crap of the last 6 months reassures me. It still just hurts. I wonder if I will ever be able to believe and trust someone in the future. It blows my mind how some people can just turn emotion on and off. I guess my problem is I turn my emotions on too readily. I wish I could find the damn switch to turn them off.
Re:Stupidity? bit pusher: Yeah, tell me about it ... the first breakup after the Capital B Breakup can be a bit ugly ... drags up all sorts of sh*t that was hanging out just below the surface waiting to bite you in the tail.
Nothing is wrong with you ... that won't be fixed with time and distance, at least. But in the interim, yeah, any ended relationship is going to be touching some very fucking raw nerves.
And don't feel bad about ignoring the advice you were given ... it's incredibly human and natural to seek that love and attention you lost with your spouse, hey? I guess it's just not incredibly likely to work out in the long run when things are still unresolved from the prior relationship ... or so I'm told ...
Hang in there.
-bp
Re:Stupidity? picadilly: Yup, thats why everone says don't get involved too soon after your seperation. Your wounds are raw & having someone comfort you helps but if they leave, then all your doing is pouring salt on the wound.
But, I understand that it can be so hard not to want someone to comfort you, to have someone you can spend time with. Don't be hard on yourself or let anyone else be. We are esspecially vulnerable after the marriage breaks up & you sometimes get into things way over your head. At least you know now to take care of yourself, by yourself. 7 your more prepared for the future.
Hang tough, smooth sailing is within your grasp.
