My Wife says she just doesn't love me anymore Mysticman2k: My Wife has left me and says its because she just doesn't love me anymore and we are two different people, We've been together 8-9yrs.
I understand that when in the past i made agreements to improve myself I soon slipped back into my old ways and this must have been discouraging for her but now shes gone and I've realized (too late!) that I let it happen in front of my own eyes!
I feel like a fool for letting this happen and being so blind.
I miss her so much even though I see her a lot.
I'm confused because shes throwing away a good loving family (2 kids)
and says there is no other man? but i guess maybe the grass looks greener elsewhere.
Re:My Wife says she just doesn't love me anymore incoherentlonghorn: Welcome to OJAR,
I'm sure you miss your family tremendously. Maybe if fighting was involved this is in your childrens best interest...
It is not always another man, just so you know. I left my husband and nothing was going on and I had no prospects.
Hang in there,
LL
Re:My Wife says she just doesn't love me anymore Lumpy: Hey Mysticman, hang tough. Can totally relate as my situation sounds like a carbon copy of yours. 8 years married, together for ten, two munchkins. Her reasons for divorce are similar as well. Been waiting to see me initiate positive change for too long. The funny thing is since this whole thing began I've put more work into myself than I have in years and it feels great! Got myself in school, just started an internship towards a new career, lost some weight, etc. Also had doubts about the stbxs' fidelity(still do at times) but I think that it's mostly my own insecurities talkin'. Bottom line is WORK ON YOURSELF! DO IT FOR YOUSELF! Even if she doesn't respond to your efforts you'll be better for it. Take the time to be with your children. They are a never ending source of joy and sanity for me when times are tough.
There seems to be a recurring theme that runs through stories like this. I myself have said "I can't understand why she's willing to through it all away". Have come to understand that she fought for years to get me to wake up. She's tired of fighting for "us". Now it's my turn! Seems we were never on the same page at the same time. Anyway, good luck, stay sane.
Re:My Wife says she just doesn't love me anymore bkg: [quote author=Lumpy link=board=1;threadid=2570;start=0#msg22082 date=1081121154">
Have come to understand that she fought for years to get me to wake up. She's tired of fighting for "us". Now it's my turn! Seems we were never on the same page at the same time. Anyway, good luck, stay sane.
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Lumpy - this brings up a question that I've been asking myself for the last week or so... Did your wife ever sit you down and say "this is what I need from you"? My ex said she did, but as I look back, the only time I ever heard her say anything was one time in our counselor's office. Now, perhaps I just didn't listen, but it also begs the question: did she ever really say anything to me? Or just to herself and her friends/family?
This is such a common thread here on Ojar, that it's starting to make me wonder if our ex's were expecting us to just read their minds.... ???
Re:My Wife says she just doesn't love me anymore in_search_of: I had that exact same discussion with my ex...here is what I need from you...I am not sure if he heard me or not...
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