Custody question Raven: Something is really worrying me. I can't get it out of my head!
I don't drive. That has never been THAT big of a problem, because my stbx(when he was just dh) would take me places...
Now, it is a HUGE problem. I can get my license...I have a permit. I just have no vehicle, and no consistent access to one either. I don't work...can't go look for work because I don't have a car...and I live in an area where there is no bus system, and no place to work within walking distance.
My stbx has told me that he will not fight me for custody of our son, but I worry about the court. Will they deny me custody because I don't drive yet, and don't have a car?
My parents offered to help me get a car, but then recinded the offer, because they feel that STBX should be helping me do that..(Doesnt seem to make one bit of difference to them that he ISN'T helping, he just should, so that is the end of that, as they see it.)
I am really scared...Can my not having a car lose me custody????
Someone please answer?
Re:Custody question ChrisJane: OMG...that is a tuffy. I would think if he isn't fighting for custody the court wouldnt hold it against you. I would ask your attorney just to cover yourself though. Some States seem to have their own laws and are strict on them.
Re:Custody question incoherentlonghorn: I'm with CJ...seek legal representation. But if he doesn't seem to be fighting for custody that is definately in your favor.
It isn't your fault that transportation is unavailable at this point is a good arguement. Definately something to work on though.
I wouldn't get too concerned until the court is concerned. Enjoy your son...
Hang in there,
LL
Re:Custody question Stormiedee: Hang in there. I am have the same problem. If he says he won't fight then there should be no problem. I know in some of these cases they give you 6 months to find a job and so on. Don't worry, if you do you will only make yourself ill over it. All you can do is move forward. Get your license, then let things fall into place. I've done that and now my life is falling into place. You can also ask that your husband provide a car for you for the sake of the child(ren) in the divorce. they may grate it. and that will take care of you not having a car. Then from there find a job and life will be your own.
stormiedee
