spoke to the crown Basset: Dear (Basset's husband),
Just so you know, today - I was asked to speak to the crown about lifting your restraining order. I told them that I have made a decision to lift it completely. They asked me why? I explained that:
(1) I want it to be easy for us to get a legal separation or divorce without using mediators or arbitrators.
(2) There are only a few of us Ex-Muslims from Malaysia and we should stick together.
(3) I shouldn't be afraid of you and should be confident that I can deal with you.
There were 2 other reasons I put in my book which I didn't mention to the crown:
(1) I would like to be able to thank you for all my achievements because you have influenced my life in a positive way while you were my man. I would also like to be able to say sorry for the unpleasant things I have done to you. Thus, I would like you to be able to have the same chance of doing these things.
(2) If you ever decide to see a psychiatrist for Bipolar II Disorder, I can be there to help get you a proper diagnosis.
(Basset's boyfriend) wasn't happy about all this. He wanted me to have restrictions placed on you. To him, you don't deserve to be cared for by me and you are a dangerous man. I cared for you and you didn't want it. If I continue to care for you, I would be hurt. This is because I am always hurt when people don't appreciate me. (Basset's boyfriend) was really protective of me. At 1st, I was unhappy and saw him as a busy body. But then, I realized how much he cared for me and just didn't want to see me hurt. Here I was worrying about you and (Basset's boyfriend) was worried about me. However, I had the final say. I told the crown that you can contact me at anytime with my permission and that you can come by to pick up your mail.
I also informed them that you may have Bipolar Disorder because Dr R********* said so. I wanted them to help you get treatment and kept you away from trouble. (Basset's boyfriend) was saying he disagrees that I should be concerned about you.
(Basset's boyfriend) was angry when you refused to plead guilty! Why are you putting the court case on hold and the ability for us to get a simple divorce on hold? Pleading guilty certainly is the best thing for you. You get to go to anger management counselling (which I wish I could go to) and you won't get a criminal record. What are your other alternatives? Plead not guilty and waste everyone's time on a trial. What if you lose? You will have a criminal record! Or do you want to continue to tell the crown you haven't made up your mind? (Basset's boyfriend) asked the crown about that and they said they are not going to take that kind of thing. You would be forced to make up your mind.
Actually, (Basset's boyfriend) wanted to chase you when you ran out of the court. But he stopped when he learned that the restraining order was still in place because you refuse to plead guilty.
You know, you won't be able to get your mail if you don't plead guilty. The police already gave me a warning about doing things that invite you to come over. They said I would be charged if I do these things. The way I see it, no mail, no university offers.
So, this is what really happened. Thank you.
Basset
Re:spoke to the crown Basset: Dear (Basset's husband),
I still strongly believe that there is no perfect man out there. A man who has all the same interests, values and beliefs as me doesn't exist. As such, I must say, I miss your good qualities that (Basset's boyfriend) doesn't have. For example, we both share similar religious beliefs and we are both against stereotyping people. I want you to know that yesterday, I missed you like crazy! I have always speculated that you thought that a woman who is perfect exist for you. But I wonder if you are right?
I often wonder who would be paying for your bail money. Is one of your casual sexual partners doing so? Or do you need a wife that loves you unconditionally to help you out - which you had and threw away? (Basset's boyfriend) was wondering where K**** was in court. Why wasn't she there to support you in this time of need? I told him that K**** is just a casual sex partner who won't sacrifice everything she has to make your life better. I was somewhat happy to see that you were alone in court while I had moral support from (Basset's boyfriend). I think that is the price of not having one wife that would do whatever she has to help you through difficult time but many casual sex partners instead.
Basset
