sometimes I slip backward - is this normal painfulopportunity: Some days - I just feel like I am on the right track. I am focussing on me and the kids and making sure that all commincation with ex is restricted to children issues. Some days - I cannot stop crying. I am still deeply in love with this girl and cannot believe that she walked away saying "I'm not in love with you anymore - I need my freedom - I havn't been able to be myself - I need to be independant" How do people just fall out of love. We were so in love only a year ago. She started to feel depressed about issues that at the time had nothing to do with us - i.e father. She has sinse turned around and looked at our relationship - disected it in every way - and decided she needs to go. It hurts so deeply to think that she wants to get away from me - it hurts just so much. We are just about to financially settle - that is me pushing that so quickly - we have only been separated for 2 months. These waves of sadness that overcome me is just killing me - I want to grab her - cuddle her - love her again. @!#$%^&*($#@%^&*$#@%^&#$%&*()
Re: sometimes I slip backward - is this normal Tarheel: We've been split a year and a half, and I STILL slip backwards on occasion. Did it twice in the last week.
It's perfectly normal, and as more time passes, the slips become fewer and fewer. It sucks that you still have them, but you just gotta ride it out.
Re: sometimes I slip backward - is this normal snkpack5: Its probably worse for you because its all slipping away so quickly even though you didn't want it to be over in the first place.
We all fall; we're all human and we all have weaknesses. Your weakness is loving someone who claims not to feel the same way about you and that is quite possibly one of the sharpest pains in the world.
The pain never really goes away. I am five years out of my relationship and I still remember how much it hurt and I still allow myself to slip and think things I shouldn't ever think. Do I love him anymore? NO. Would I ever be with him again? NO. But I remember how I loved him and those memories make you think weird thoughts and it makes you act foolishly. I still dream about him . . .
But time has managed to heal a lot of the pain. And I feel ready again . . . I feel ready to be in a healthy relationship. And you will someday too. Everyone has their own pace, but you will get to a place where it won't matter so much . . .
Re: sometimes I slip backward - is this normal barnbum_05: Some days your gonna cry more than others and some days your gonna feel wonderful and energetic; the next sad and depressed. Its all in your mind. Were not strong enough to stay positive all the time. (I dont need her, im better without her, ect.) You have to tell yourself its over. God i know it hurts, but she left you. It should be her loss. What always helps me is crying to God. He is a wonderful listener. . . and if you keep it up, he will give you the strenght you need. Who knows. . . this could just be a phase she is going through. Oh and people dont fall out of love that quick. She either got scared, or had been thinking about it for a while. Love is something you have to work on. Like i told my ex when he said he wasnt ready for a relationship, destiny only takes you so far; you either grab a hold or let it pass you by.
barnbum ;D Good luck!
Re: sometimes I slip backward - is this normal sosad05: I have been feeling this way today. It all started because I had to fill out my son's preschool pwk for fall. I had to list seperate addresses for the parents and check divorced. It makes me want to cry. I have a pain in my gut that just wont go away. Part of it is because its just a few short hours until the kids leave and she and he get to play happy family. What is wrong with me? Im seeing someone new who adores me. But, I dont want to play happy family with the new guy. I dont want to see him everyday. I certainly wouldnt even consider marriage. Why was it so easy for xh?
I can list a million reasons why my life has improved and is better without him. BUt, I still miss him. I was with him a long time. I wish I could turn back the clock and start over. There are so many "I wishes". I think its especially bad because I recently found out he's marrying her in April. 6 months to the date of when he could legally marry again. Wow :'(
I wish the pain would go away for today. :(
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