Re: This includes everyone!!! thehitekrednek: I'm with Kev, 12 years then one day I love but I'm sleeping with someone else.
thr
Re: This includes everyone!!! MikeB: Answer 1: Yes, it's been a very healthy relationship for a long time; I thought it was until the end, because she still felt happiest within my arms, would tell me that I was her world, would enjoy doing things together etc...
Then, she went out and french-kissed a friend of ours (well, a former friend of mine, obviously ;-) and half a week later she would tell me that for the last few months she didn't feel as happy as she used to feel (I didn't notice and neither did she, since she told me even in our final week that she loved me and that I was her world... I think she still has to figure out that when you're with someone who has given you so much and made you so happy that it deserves a chance because it might be a phase etc etc.... btw, crappy answer that "not as happy as I used to be"). She thought we couldn't work it out and broke up with me..
Answer 2: No, but I still hope she will.
@curlygirl: Although you're right in that some kind of innocence and "primordial trust" has been lost, doesn't mean you can't build up a strong and working relationship again. My cousin for example is happily together with a (former, of course) ex-girlfriend...
I think that it can be healthy to learn that even the one person you trust(ed) most is capable of making mistakes that violate this trust and hurt you.
And maybe, just maybe, this knowledge can serve as a basis for a more "realistic" view on a relationship and may be just as good a foundation as primordial trust. You may even be able to trust this person again, as long as you remember the lesson that even the person you trust most can make mistakes that hurt you.
Take Care,
Mike
Re: This includes everyone!!! legionuvdoom: I don't know about the whole "i'm not in love with u anymore" I don't know if that means they were never in love with you or they just got excited about being with someone new, and they find it easier to abandon you and pursue something different. I'm still very confused by this, and have trust issues with women because of it.
Re: This includes everyone!!! shockedandamazed: I got a 'It's not that I don't love you, I do. It's just that I'm not in love with you anymore'
This came out of his mouth three weeks after he threatened to kick my friends ass at a high school reunion because he thought that the guy was touching me...the guy was not..
As for the healthy relationship...No, can't say as it was - my eyes were shut closed tight until his infedility pryed them wide open.
Has he come back? Nope - been six months now. I did get an e-email asking if we could file taxes together. I told him hell no! Haven't heard from him since! Seriously doubt I ever will!
Re: This includes everyone!!! poppy: i guess my marriage wasn't healthy, but i wouldn't call it unhealthy, either.
he is still cohabitating with his alcoholic, bi-polar, suicidal, pill popping, pot smoking, whore stepsister. he still prefers her to my sober and only marginally crazy self.
like shocked, he did e-mail me offering to do my taxes for me (because i'm not as smart as he is), offering to file jointly so he can "share" the refund with me. oh puh-lease. i might me cutting off my nose to spite my face, but after all the crap he has put me through, there is no way on earth i would file jointly with him. or accept his "favor".
my heart cannot be trusted with him, but my credit score is safe...
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