Re: OK-Explain this to me like I'm 4 years old..... PickingUpThePieces: I agree with O.G. With some people, you just need to be direct. If he wants to date you and you ask him, he'll jump at it if he's just being "shy"...if he's being wishy-washy he'll get the hint to stop.
Or, you could just run naked through his backyard and jump on his trampoline. ;D
Pup
Re: OK-Explain this to me like I'm 4 years old..... Older Guy: what have you got to lose ? he isn't your ex so you don't have the t-shirt from this one.
I can undersatand fear but you should try to look at it as not havnig anything to lose. So what if he doesn't respond positively. Then you will know for sure and won;t have to be stuck in the spot you are now.
I've been scared too at times and trust me overcoming your fears will help put you in a more apporpriate spot. If i had listened to my insecurities i wouldn;t happily be with the great young lady that i am with now.
Good luck Dingo !
OG
Re: OK-Explain this to me like I'm 4 years old..... Freckles: [quote author=HeartbrokenDingo link=topic=26077.msg248606#msg248606 date=1140955418">
So no, O.G. , the answer is No, I have not asked him, because quite frankly, I've done everything BUT run through the man's yard stripped, butt naked and jumped on his trampoline.....
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I will Quote a lady in a movie I saw once that I will allways rember.
She was asked something like: If you want a man , what do you do ?
Answer : I will Grab him and Take Him !
You would just Grab him and Take Him ?
Yes ! I would Grab him and Take him ! :)
Beating around the Bush is not a good idea.
If you did what you said in your Quote. You would ether have a Husband or You would find out rather Quickly if he doent want you.
And at our age Quickly finding out is a LOT better than Years of Beating around the bush.
(You would have a amazing story for your old age)
Re: OK-Explain this to me like I'm 4 years old..... JimB: [quote author=HeartbrokenDingo link=topic=26077.msg248606#msg248606 date=1140955418">
I'm truly afraid.....I'm afraid of being rejected or humiliated....
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The only way to get over this kind of fear is to go do it, and find out that rejection isn't as bad as all that. I'd be willing to bet you were afraid of getting divorced at one time or another, and you made it through that. You're stronger than you think.
Believe it or not, you're not annoyed with yourself or with Mr. Wishy-Washy. You're tied in knots because your fear has you paralyzed. Fear keeps you from taking charge and making the next move. Face your fear and do something - call him out, walk away, anything. Just doing something will make you feel better.
Remember, rejection and humiliation only exist in your own mind. You can beat them.
Re: OK-Explain this to me like I'm 4 years old..... dgiirl: Hey Dingo :)
Two things came to my mind when i read your post.
1) he's fresh out of a divorce too right? It's possible he's just as clueless. It still takes me a while to realize guys are hitting on me. I was with my exh for so long that it's hard for me to understand a guy would want my number and date me. My initial reaction is "Why do they want my number?" It's definitely weird being single again.
2) this friend of his first told you to go after him and now she's telling you not too? Maybe something's developing between the two of them?
Either way, I agree with the rest. Either be direct with him or move on. As for moving on, just get out there and attend social gatherings. Check your local newspaper for singles events, or take up a new hobby, or even try the online thing. Just get out of your home and work environment. Cos unless you are interested in dating the mailman, no other guy is just going to knock on your door :) You gotta get out!
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