Re: i think i just made a big mistake sadgirlwhyme: star,
My ex is on his second girlfriend too. The first time we were separated on a break and he went out with another girl for 3 months. He came crying back to me saying he loves all the passion we have and all the security I give him, I make everything better and put everything in perspective. I pay all the bills, I do everything for him. In other words, I am a major care giver and very forgiving.
This time I caught him cheating on Valentines day. We were sleeping and he left our cell phone on (its both of ours, idiot gave out the # to his new girls) and it kept ringing and ringing...two differant girls were calling begging him to come over and be with them. This was our 5th Valentines Day together and he brought me white roses (he says because I am pure) and candy. I threw the gifts in the trash, woke him up and threw him out, fallowed by begging him not to leave. I was in shock. We both were.
Your ex will never change star. He will always cheat on you.
Mine wont leave. He wants the door open. I am moving 4/01 to a tiny one bedroom in the ghetto to get away from him.
I know what you mean. I miss him, I miss sex, I miss argueing, hugging and laughing and eating with him, and I miss video games and hikes and being so proud of him when he held my hand or leaned toward me to whisper something in public and I felt like the luckiest girl in the world.
My ex is not my friend. I had mulitiple surguries in the last few months and instead of being there for me he went out and cheated on me.
We leave each other notes everyday because we do not see each other, he leaves the house before I get home from work.
I have told him how I feel and its ok for you to express how you feel.
Just so long as you do understand that he may come back and break your heart again. He cheated on you, he will cheat on her. Thats just how some men are, they separate what they say from what they do with lies they think its ok to tell, because if they told the truth many gilrs would just cry and beg them to stop cheating, but not leave them.
Be strong, if you take him back be prepared for history to repeat itself...
Re: i think i just made a big mistake starzluv: him cheating on her, i already know he has because he has with me. for me, right now anyways, the only way i can have sex and not feel like i am cheating is if it's with him. after the divorce, then i can look for someone i can have fun with. i just don't see myself in a serious relationship ever again. before him i never had a serious, exclusive relationship with anyone. before my H i had my friends with privleges (sp?) at least i knew i wouldn't get hurt that way. and i see myself going back to that when this is all over. we started out as "friends" and he once told me he knew he loved me because the thought of me with anyone else made him want to throw up. and all the other "friends" he had he never felt that way. hope he likes feeling like he's going to throw up, because as soon as everything is final, i'm not going to sit around for the rest of my life without sex.
Re: i think i just made a big mistake JNA: [quote author=starzluv link=topic=26088.msg248655#msg248655 date=1140984303">
him cheating on her, i already know he has because he has with me. for me, right now anyways, the only way i can have sex and not feel like i am cheating is if it's with him. after the divorce, then i can look for someone i can have fun with. i just don't see myself in a serious relationship ever again. before him i never had a serious, exclusive relationship with anyone. before my H i had my friends with privleges (sp?) at least i knew i wouldn't get hurt that way. and i see myself going back to that when this is all over. we started out as "friends" and he once told me he knew he loved me because the thought of me with anyone else made him want to throw up. and all the other "friends" he had he never felt that way. hope he likes feeling like he's going to throw up, because as soon as everything is final, i'm not going to sit around for the rest of my life without sex.
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As far as the e-mail don't fret it...
As far as the above
Well what you are planning to do is what I do now...
It is not a bad route to take as you get to "learn" the person you are with
The last person I gave my heart to ripped it to shreds in "so" many ways and I let it happen by believing her BS...
She had me hook line and sinker as I'm sure she does a lot of guys
I don't hve much to add other than to say going the friends with privledges route is sometimes the best route...
Dating Is Hard and by doing this you know in time what type of person you have
I missed that last time out...
I won't again...
What's the "song"..."My Mama Told Me You Better Shop Around"
JNA
Then as always don't listen to what they say
Watch what they do...
Re: i think i just made a big mistake JNA: Just because you've become a young woman now
There's still some things that you don't understand now
Before you ask some guy for his hand now
Keep your freedom for as long as you can now
My mama told me you better shop around
There's some things that I want you to know now
Just as sure as the wind's gonna blow now
The men'll come and the men are gonna go now
Before you tell 'em that you love 'em so now
My mama told me you better shop around
Try to get yourself a bargain, girl
Don't be sold on the very first one
Good-looking guys come a dime a dozen
Try to find you one who's gonna give you true loving
Before you take a man and say I do now
Make sure he's in love with you now
Make sure that his love is true now
I hate to see you feeling sad and blue now
My mama told me you better shop around
Re: i think i just made a big mistake sadgirlwhyme: star,
silly, you will not go the rest of yor life without sex if you dump your ex. You will close that chapter of your life and maybe move on and have a healthy normal relationship with someone who cares about you and doesnt hrut you.
I feel the same way, I pray to God for strength to push him away. Its so impossible..
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