Are you treated differently by family and friends? divorciada: I have been divorced for almost 3 years and been dating this wonderful guy for almost 1.5 years. I have noticed my family treats me differently since my divorce. I feel pigeonholed, well you are just single. For example, my family would always ask about my ex and it seems they rarely acknowledge my new boyfriend. I have been hesitant to introduce him to my parents because I am afraid they will not hold him in the same regard they did to my ex. When I saw my parents over Thanksgiving, my mother said "I did like your ex." Whenever I would mention my boyfriend, she would say "oh", then change the subject. Now that I am no longer married, my parents always want me to arrange my schedule to fit theirs. Its like I have all of this time in the world because I am single.
With friends, my old friends also treat me differently. They always want me to come visit them, yet they never make the effort to come visit me. (I live out of state). Some asked "Are you moving back?" What? No I have lived in my state for almost 10 years. Just because I am divorced, I have to move? My parents asked me similar questions. Now that I am staying in my state, I rarely hear from old friends. Just annoying. It was not an issue before, but now it seems so. Whatever.
As far as married friends, I have no contact with them. Most have started their own families.
Just need to gripe. My time is valuable too. Its harder to make new friends because most in my age group are getting married and having kids. Anyone have similar feelings?
