Has anyone ever???? BONILLAK: Has anyone ever chased someone away by being too into them, too assertive, too much up their butt? Is there a way to bring them back especially when you know you did this because you leaned on them during your times of trouble and threw yourself into them instead of facing problems? Thanks
Re: Has anyone ever???? 21218: that's what they say to you as an excuse.
"too clingy and needy" is someone saying they don't want to be close to you or responsive to your needs
you should be able to be with somebody and be yourself.
if someone doesn't like who you are ... it's not up to you to change, it's up to you to find someone who will accept and love you as you are, not as they want you to be.
Re: Has anyone ever???? JNA: [quote author=LivingANewLife link=topic=26090.msg248663#msg248663 date=1140985975">
Has anyone ever chased someone away by being too into them, too assertive, too much up their butt? Is there a way to bring them back especially when you know you did this because you leaned on them during your times of trouble and threw yourself into them instead of facing problems? Thanks
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Yup...
You call and thank them for helping you out in your time of need and say I will always appreciate what you did for me
Then you withdrawal and don't bother them at all...
Let them think about it for a time
If they have interest it won't take long for them to come back around...
IMO
JNA
Re: Has anyone ever???? BONILLAK: JNA,
Thats what I think I did....he use to be all up on me, calling, etc. Then I kinda did that too him to the extreme and I think scared him. But in a sense I used him as I needed him during my roughest months. Now when I did say thanks and I will always remember you being there....he comes back. Its like neither of us really know what we want from the other.LOL I'm trying to take a needed break I guess but when I push away he pulls me back.
Re: Has anyone ever???? sadgirl951: I once dated someone and was clinging to him in needed times.
So I gave him his space, since he asked for it, and then he became clingy.
Other factors were involved, but that lasted three years before we both decided to split.
Just figure out what's best for you and him. Either gently tell him it's not gonna work, more than you have, or try to work it out.
That's my advice though. Hope it helps.
LONA
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