Re: missing my old life nrsgirl: Just wanted to thank respondants it definitely helps knowing others are out there who have gone through the same thing--sometimes multiple times! It is interesting to me how just daydreaming about my own house one day is a comfort. Just the idea that I can have it again in the future. As far as loving him, I think I always will. I just cant live with him and the drinking. That is the key difference. I have to drill into my head every time I think of how much I love him, how much I HATE his drinking and everything it brings with it. Ok, so thanks again everybody. I love this place.
Re: missing my old life LostTeacher: i think we all miss the comfortable, even if it wasn't the happiest.
i miss my house, i miss my stuff, i miss my dog....hell, i miss my satelite tv.
but those are just things.
i miss my in-laws, i miss some of my old friends and neighbours....
but they are not a part of my life anymore.
you grow, and change, and things are different.
i miss those things a lot sometimes. i miss my old routines..i miss making dinner for my ex, taking my dog for a walk, cleaning my own house, sunday drives with the ex.
but.....i have to see that i can still have those things with another person. just because i don't have them with him anymore doesn't mean i can't have those things ever.
sure....i might not have those friends and family. i might not have my dog. i might not have some of my possessions.
but i have my freedom. i have the freedom to meet someone else. to carry on with my life with someone who loves me as deeply as i can love them. to have kids and build a life with someone who has the same goals as i do.
you just have to decide where you want to be.
it's taken a long time for me to get close to this place. i'm not all the way there...but i am getting there.
LT
