too little too late sadgirlwhyme: My ex is trying to weasle his way home. This is the second time he has cheated on me. Again he says he is sorry and he loves me and it is over and he regrets it.
The problem is I dont have anymore pride. I love him that much. I realize I am abusing my self by putting up with him cheating on me. How many mores time will he do this? I mean, he puts on this very sweet charm and girls throw themselves at him. He is always at Sorority houses and parties that I am not invited to. Nothing will change if we get back together. He cant keep himself out of situations with drunk college girls. The way he tells it they attack him and he cant fight them off.
I wish I could get over him and move on but I dont see how because he is my best friend and soulmate. Even if he is a sack of s&%t.
I want to break up with him but I dont want to cry forever without stopping..
Re: too little too late burningbird: It never feels good to be cheated on. It seems to me he has justified what he has done, made it all the girls fault and hung his head low running back to you like a puppy. Take him to the pound. Do not be fooled, this won't be the last. I never believed once a cheater always a cheater. I took my husband back the first time and that was my first mistake. People who cheat make it a game. We become the pawns. Thankfully you are young, I assume no kids and hopefully healthy(he did not give you something).
Go out and live your life without him. Learn from this boy(he has yet to learn to be a man) and find yourself someone who deserves you. The best part is, you know what you don't want.
Good luck.
Re: too little too late seyfert: As hard ad it is now, you have to get rid of him. He has full control if a girl throws herself at him. He can put a stop to it. Nobody told him to get naked with the coed either.
He should be telling you that he would rather cut off his arm than have another affair, but he's making excuses for why it happened. If he was committed to you, he would do everything possible to earn your trust back.
He is responsible for his own behavior. He's a child if he tries to blame it on someone else. Get away now while you still have a chance to find a guy who will treat you with respect.
Re: too little too late isp34: Totally agree with bird and seyfert, he will do it again, this coming from a man whose wife cheated on him numerous times, and justified saying there was a 'spark' missing between us, blaming me for our fights about everything, blah blah blah ---- classic justification of a cheater!!! >:(
Take the long term view on this one, get rid of him now and sometime you will find a man who will make you totally forget this one
isp
Re: too little too late humblecaterpillar: Why me,
From a recovering cheater who will never again cheat, I can tell you for a fact that this boy will cheat again. He shows none of the qualities that distinguish someone who is in recovery and is unwilling to act out again. If you take him back, know that this is what you have chosen. You deserve far better, and I hope that you can surround yourself with friends who can affirm this for you and hold the high ground while you rebuild your self-esteem. I know it's hard, but you can either go thorugh the pain now of letting him go or go through the pain of letting him go many times over as his issues keep him from every being available to truly partner with you. As for crying forever without stopping, staying with him will shed far more tears over time than leaving this boy now. Good luck,
Humble Caterpillar
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