So why is it that I still get pissed off at her? sudboy: ...even when we're discussing child or business items -- which is all we really discuss. And I try not to let it show that I'm pissed -- but I'm sure it comes through.
Am I still just pissed that I got hurt and she acts like either she doesn't give a damn or that everything is just fine and dandy? I'm really not sure what to make of it. I am past the point where I desire any validation from her.
I guess it's just that I wonder if I deserve to be pissed off still -- which pisses me off. I just want to be over being mad. It's such a tiresome burdensome worn-out downer to be angry.
Today makes four months separated. Yay.
Okay vent over.
Re: So why is it that I still get pissed off at her? rjack0612: I can only say in my case that because my stbx will still not admit what she has done or express an ounce or remorse I have not been able to achieve closure on this. She too wants to be friends, act like evrything is fine BUT BLAME ME FOR EVERYTHING. I have admitting to the things I did wrong, I have said I sorry 500 different ways. She is STILL the victim. Amazing. That is why I try not to talk to here at all. What is the point?
Re: So why is it that I still get pissed off at her? flyaway: I think that BDAD hit it on the head.....it's the fact that they don't acknowledge their part in the crazyness. And that is maddening for us! That being said...I think that so many years of being together is not going to disconnect in a mere 4 months, Suds. :(
You deserve to experience any and all emotions that you do.....the anger is merely your emotion's way of informing your head that you have been grieviously wronged.
Knowing you the way I do, I would say that you are not in danger of allowing this to overcome your entire life. Relax, enjoy the ride. And remember to keep your hands and feet inside at all times. ;)
Fly girl
Re: So why is it that I still get pissed off at her? seyfert: You all say some of the same things my stbx says about me. I know I wasn't perfect and could have done things differently, but I'm not going to get into a run-down of all my faults with him. He wants me to "confess my sins" to him. Its not going to happen.
When we communicate, I try to stick to the point. I don['t want to engage in berbal insults anymore. I want to move on and work with what is left.
Perhaps, when the anger is gone, you will be able to agree to disagree.
Re: So why is it that I still get pissed off at her? flyaway: Seyfert, I am in no way implying that our stbx's need to wear sakcloth and put ashes on their heads.....
But one meaningful conversation in regards to the demise of the marriage and how we both contributed, and YES...and apology would be a lovely thing.
I don't expect the behaviour to change, but rather, just the fact that they acknowledge their part in it.
That's all.
Fly girl
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