Just got the papers..... chaotic: Well those of you who read my last post, know what my story is. Wife of almost 9 years left for another guy.
I was having a pretty good day today. First night that I actually slept without the use of sleeping pills. Well my lawyer just called and said they just recieved the papers from her lawyer and that I need to come down and sign.
Now.....All the feelings and emotions are back.
AAAAARRRRRGGGGG! Why is this happening to me?
Sorry for that. I know that all of us are here for similar reasons. I just needed to vent for a second.
Re: Just got the papers..... Dolphin Close: Don't postpone the trip to the lawyer's office. See your lawyer as soon as you think you're ready to digest the reality of the divorce. There's no way you can ever prepare for it but if you postpone it, more butterflies will invade your stomach every hour of each day.
Good luck in signing your marriage away. That's a huge milestone and one that you'll never ever want to do again. We have all been there, we've suffered through that, we are here for you.
The next giant step after that will either a) you'll see her in court or b) you'll get the final papers in the mail.
(((HUGS))))
Re: Just got the papers..... fndcourage: I'm new, but as most of us do, I completely relate. I was also with my husband for almost nine years when it all went down for us. I am yet to post my story (a little slow to take this step), but just had the same experience you did. I don't know how long your process of divorce has taken, but my husband filed on january 27th and the judge will stamp the papers in two days.
I don't know where you're at in the grieving process, but I felt the same pain when i realized I had just signed the last final papers. The frustration of having a good day was vaporized when that call came in and I found my hand signing just hours later, just going through the motions and hearing everything over again from my attorney.
All I know is that peace will be yours one day, all of ours. Calmness and serenity will settle in all these open wounds we have, and even though we feel that happening a day here and a day there-it will be more frequently as these days pass. It's healing to feel the hurt again on days like today, as bad as that truth just plain sucks! And thank goodness, you are not alone in it.
