Re: Another one down in flames... fndcourage: Humble Caterpillar,
How what you said rings true! I have read books to my son about feelings before, like being sad and angry, etc., but never even thought to look for books on divorce for kids. Thank you so much for the suggestion as I will go out this weekend and look for one or two for him. I totally agree about not telling him mommy and daddy don't love each other anymore, for the same reasons you stated. I tell him I love daddy too and I always will and that daddy will always be a part of my life as well as his. This is my xh weekend with the kids and I have a feeling my son will bring the question of why daddy doesn't want to live with us anymore to his attention, and I want to be sure my xh and I have the same response for him. I can't thank you enough for sharing your experience with me and everyone else who has read it.
The adjustment is hard enough, I mean the physical one we will be making.I am selling the house, so my son noticed the sign in the yard right away and didn't understand why we need to sell it. I have tried to make the process fun for him, like you suggested. He is excited about living with my parents once our new home is under construction, but this will still be hard when we have to close the door to the only home he has ever known.
I am so blessed to have found this site! A very important person in my life found it for me and suggested it, since i don't feel like I have the time to go to a support group (with two small kids, any time away from home is an event as many of you know). I was hesitant at first, but I am so glad I took the time to check it out and see there are people out there whose circumstances surrounding divorce may be different, but your obstacles to overcome are similar. Thank you!!
Finding courage
