What am I supposed to do? gai: I finally contacted my husband last night (it's Thurs am here in Japan) to say please come pick up your stuff on Sunday, and also find out when we can get the divorce paperwork done.
He's now saying that he really wants to meet to talk about things, and that maybe we could try again. He says he still has feelings for me (didn't go as far as to say he loved me though), and he's been so upset since this all happened.
I really don't know what to do now. I've more or less closed my heart to him and listed all the reasons why our marriage was a mistake from the beginning. He left me, but I am the one wanting to proceed with the divorce because I don't want any more of this pain and uncertainty.
What should I do at this point? Should I meet with him to talk things through and hear what he has to say? Should I open my heart and mind to giving him another chance? Or should I stick resolutely to my decision to end things now before either of us are hurt any more?
I really don't know what to do. :'(
Re: What am I supposed to do? Jamgirl: You have to follow your heart as you and only you knows what you are feeling. I think you should listen to what he has to say to make your choice.
Re: What am I supposed to do? flyaway: Only you can answer that for yourself, gai. Take the time to think through things, as clearly as you can......if you have another woman, who can be objective, it helps to maybe discuss your options with them.
I'm not sure if we're a completely unbiased crowd here. :-\
fly girl
Re: What am I supposed to do? newts: [quote"> I've more or less closed my heart to him and listed all the reasons why our marriage was a mistake from the beginning. He left me, but I am the the one wanting to proceed with the divorce because I don't want any more of this pain and uncertainty.[/quote">
There you go, this is the answer to all your worries, fears.
Stick to your decision and you will be fine.
Re: What am I supposed to do? Neej: Hi Gai,
Dunno the gackground to your story but.
My opinion, listen what he has to say. Take some time and make your mind up.
One can always run away, but longterm uncertanity will never help. Even at times like this, you gotta find your way through this. Again you. It's good to talk to people. But it's important that you decide on your own.
Personally am a husband trying to get my wife back, so I am biassed.
I believe if there is mutual vibe in two partners to try things in new hope, try it. Life is not a joyride. And love is the greatest thing there is.
Don't fear and it's normal that this phase is hard, I think.
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