Re: What am I supposed to do? gai: Thanks for the advice everyone.
I'll tell you what happened - I invited my H round to talk, and basically it was the best thing I could have done. We had a long talk and cried together but decided that we need to get divorced and start over as friends. We still want to be in each other's lives, but we know we work better as friends. We're going to do the paperwork next week, so we'll be divorced straight away the document is signed. (Good old easy Japanese divorce law).
I feel so sad, yet happy that we have got closure on this. We both know we rushed into the marriage and it was maybe a mistake, but we don't regret it as we have some great memories and we've both made a great friend in each other.
I'm crying as I type this, but I'm not sure if it's through sadness or happiness - maybe a bit of both. I'm sad for the loss of my marriage, but I'm happy that we have been able to put the situation right and we can both go on with our lives.
I suppose my situation must seem bizarre to most people reading this. I suppose it IS bizarre. I hope it's OK if I still stick around on OJar - I still need the support to get over the loss of my marriage.
Re: What am I supposed to do? C-Note: Such a loss is felt on so many levels of one's being that I don't think truly getting over it completely is possible. You belong here at this site as long as you feel a need to converse with others about your loss.
Crying is good, no matter if it’s brought on by joy or sorrow. I don’t know if this is good advice or not, but I believe time immersed in grief is well spent. A tribute to be paid for something so important that’s been lost.
