Re: need opinion of some women plz froggee: 1. You're in a volatile situation having to live together. Let her get mad and let her blow up. Want to irritate her? Don't let it get to you. There's nothing worse to a woman like that than a man they can't manipulate.
2. Violence is pointless and will only mess with kids' heads. If it's starting to get out of control, call the cops on her.
3. I agree with the hardball stance. If she's not willing to compromise, then it's even more important to stand firm on what you're willing and not willing to do or give up. One little slip and she'll know she can demand whatever she wants.
4. Ah, money. Besides all of the emotional suffering we have to go through, fate slaps us again by making us argue over money. No real suggestion there other than to start a separate account. Until the divorce is final you have to suppport her, but that doesn't mean you have to give her every last cent. Send half of your income to the new account, half to the old. You're going to get separate accounts at some point... might as well do it now.
5. It isn't okay for her to bail on you. You're just going to have to confront her about it. Annoy her long enough and she'll probably cave.
Having never dated a woman, cheated on anyone or treated anyone shabbily, I can only speculate on what's going on in her head. She's got a buttload of kids and wants her freedom. She's taking advantage of your current living arrangement financially. She thinks she runs the place and can do whatever she wants. No idea why some people in a relationship get that way, but the only way to correct them is to make it clear that you won't tolerate the behavior. If she thinks she can get away with treating you poorly, she will continue to do so.
Oh the joys of relationships, huh? You know what, though... as much as the divorce period blows, it's quite the learning experience. Never will you see such bad behavior out of people you love(d).
Re: need opinion of some women plz treeluva: He can not force her out of the house since he is military and she is his dependent. If he told her to leave, he would have to provide her with of his BAH (basic Allowance for Housing) to cover her living arrangements. That is included in Military regs to ensure that spouses that are cheating on spouses cant just kick them out and leave them to rot in the garbage.
