Re: need opinion of some women plz nrsgirl: Here goes another womans opinion. This is just my opinion on what youve said. Sounds to me like she is very selfish, or at least going through a very selfish stage. Her ability to see your point of view is nil. Her need to satisfy her own needs is forefront and she doesn't really care who she hurts to satisfy herself. In fact, if shes instigating fights and "daring" you to hurt her, etc. shes probably got some guilt for all the crap shes dishing out and is subconciously trying to get you to hurt her back because these kind of people are always aware on some level that they are hurting their spouse, they just cant handle admitting it. My ex was the same. He would get mad at me FOR GETTING MAD AT HIM. Like I was never allowed to have any feelings. It was usually regarding his drinking, which was out of control. Bad behaviors on others parts (ie-drinking, adultery, etc) always brings out a lot of defensiveness from that person that makes them try to make YOU feel bad for something, so that they dont have to feel bad for their bad behavior. I was always told I was overeacting if I had any emotional upset over his drinking or the repercutions of it (lost work, money issues, disappearing for hours, etc). Also guilt of one party makes that person very susicious that their partner is doing the same. She cant face the fact that shes guilty so shes putting her crap back onto you. Dont let her. Realize what shes doing and focus on taking care of yourself and the kids. Sounds like you are a responsible person and will be better off without the head games, and its good the kids have a solid influence among her chaos. In hindsight, I still love my ex, always will, but I cant live with the crap anymore, and now months later i actually feel sorry for him because he will never change nor have a decent relationship because of his issues. Hope this helped a little.  Take care I wish you luck.  
Re: need opinion of some women plz alonewith4: hey isp34 play hard ball with her, and why adopt her kid. it just means another easy way for her to be tied to you until the kid is 18, and a free meal ticket. i agree with every one else it just depends on the situation. did you know 6% of men are abused by there spouses. scary is it not. nrsgirl i'm like you my xh will never have a decent relationship. as a matter of fact he is with a drug addict who don't do any thing . she doesn't cook clean anything. he had all that but threw it away now another man has it. good luck to you isp34!!