Found $5000...Don't know what to do? jperk: It has been a while since I posted, but a short summary. I have been marreid 10 years to my high school sweetheart and have two young children, 8 and 3. He told me eight days before Christmas that he wants a divorce by a letter and a text message. This is not something that I want because I could never do this to my children and for me divorce was never an option. Anyways, nothing has changed since he told me except that he continues to say that he wants a divorce. He has not moved out or moved to the completely furnished basement. I was told by an attorney and financial person that even with child support and my income, with our debt, we will have to sell our home. I was devastated with this news and my kids do not want to move either. I gave him an ultimatum a couple of weeks ago and said that he had until March 31st to make some decisions. He is either leaving or staying for good, but that this limbo is not good for me and driving me crazy and our kids are confused.
Anyways, to the $5000. Yesterday, when he came home something felt strange to me and something told me to go and check his car. He left to walk up and get our daughter. Hidden in his car, I found $5000. I have no idea where it came from. We do not have that kind of money. So, I didn't know what to do. If he borrowed it from somewhere, I am going to be held liable for 1/2. Right? I took the money and left for work. I was shaking. I was mad and scared all at the same time. I told him that I was going to have my parents come over so that we could go to a public place and talk. He still did not know that I had the money. I had put it in a safe place until I got some answers. I have not spent or done anything with it. I told him and he blew up and told me that he did not have to tell me where he got it. I had no right to it. He wanted me to tell him where it was. I told him I would not until I found out where it came from. He finally told me that he borrowed it from his 401K, without talking to me first. I do not have a retirement fund because we always just contributed more to his and he knows that he is going to owe me half with the divorce. He said the money was for a lawyer. I believe him, but I have no way of getting that kind of money for a lawyer. I just don't know what to do. I think I am going to contact an attorney tomorrow and find out what they think. If I am going to be liable for 1/2 then I should keep half to go and get a lawyer for myself. What do you all think? Some of you have went down this road, what do you think?
Re: Found $5000...Don't know what to do? dre: I still think hes lying.
My husband didnt pay a bill but said he did and I checked, total lie, then he said he put it in a friends bank account, money I gave him, and I called that friend, still not true.
Turn out he spent it on drugs and wasnt where he said he was.
Im a sucker because I always went back.
Never again.
Re: Found $5000...Don't know what to do? Freckles: Are you seperated Yet ?
If Still in same house and Married then its just between You and Him about the Money.
But as I am not a Lawyer, My advice is worth here what you paid for it.
:)
(And to the Smart Remarks from Some because I said That >:( )
Re: Found $5000...Don't know what to do? hudson: Hi jp, sorry to hear you are going through this mess. It's never any fun, but you'll get through it.
I don't think it was right for you to take the money out of his car. I think it was controlling and an invasion of privacy. Period. The right thing to do would've been to just ask him about the money without taking it. I don't care what the circumstances are, it's never right to go through someone's car and remove property without consent.
Divorce has a way of clouding our judgement.
Re: Found $5000...Don't know what to do? crushedman: I'm with BH on this one. I would give the money back.
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