My parents never told me they love me. Jamgirl: I grew up in a violent home. My parents are always fighting. Bloody fights with knives and what ever sharp intrument they could find. I am always home as I am the oldest. I had to be nurse for my mother as my dad would play a "soldier" if or when he got cuts.
I really hated that, I never heard them say "I love yous" to each other, never have they told me. They were always abusive to us, me and my 4 other sisters.
When I started dating at the age of 19 (I could only talk to boys when I started working a year out of high school) and he told me he loved me, I felt as if I was told I just hit a 50 million $$$ jackpot. I loved that man with all my heart because it meant so much to me.
Re: My parents never told me they love me. grizwold: its amazing, b/c people say you turn into your parents, but my parents although not as aggresive never really said i love you or showed affection. When I started dating I wanted to be the most romantic lovey dovey man alive...
Re: My parents never told me they love me. alonewith2: My stbx used to hide behind his past. It was his excuse for everything. I can't even begin to tell you the number of times I heard, "Well, I was poor growing up...." or "my mom was always in abusive relationships....."
I didn't have a happy childhood either, but I don't use that as an excuse the way he did. Instead, I make sure that I provide a happier one for my kids. My childhood is over. I can't get it back. But I can make sure my children have one.
He never understood that.....he still wanted the childhood he never had. He ended up stealing our daughter's.....
Re: My parents never told me they love me. Jamgirl: [quote author=grizwold link=topic=26569.msg255103#msg255103 date=1141945716">
its amazing, b/c people say you turn into your parents, but my parents although not as aggresive never really said i love you or showed affection. When I started dating I wanted to be the most romantic lovey dovey man alive...
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I am sort of the same. I give my all to who ever I am with, I carefully screen and choose my partners interms of what they do to ¨socialize¨. I do not agree with one who have to drink to feel great at a party or smoke. My father was a heavy drinker and smoker. My mom was a swearer. I choose to be the total opposite of who/what she was. My dad is dead and I am sorry to say I dont miss him, not even for a minute as he was the one causing the pains most of the times.
Mom stopped swearing and is a bit more gentle, but she still doesnt use the love word. Yes I tell her that I love her.
